It’s actually nice when a sub properly introduces himself in the first message. His experience, what he’s into, what he’s looking for. That’s respectful.
But the moment you try to dictate terms, set limits for me, or bargain…that’s not submission. That’s delusion.
My rules aren’t up for discussion. Ever.
If you can’t accept that I’m in charge from the start, you’re not looking for a domme, you’re looking for a play partner.
A sub should earn access before asking for it.
Most men want closeness too early.
More attention.
More time.
More response.
More access.
But access is not granted because he wants it.
It is granted when his behavior proves he will not become more work.
Can he read?
Can he wait?
Can he follow instructions?
Can he send?
That is what a Domme notices.
A man who rushes access is still centering himself.
A useful sub proves he can handle less before asking for more.
He does not get closer by asking.
He gets closer by proving.