my mom once told me "accountability will always feel like an attack when you are not ready to acknowledge how your behavior harms others" and that shit is real.
There is a very specific female fatigue that comes from knowing exactly what is happening, explaining exactly what is happening, being told you are overreacting, and then watching exactly what is happening happen with excellent punctuality.
The neurodivergent urge to overexplain during a misunderstanding so nobody misunderstands you again only to accidentally create three brand-new misunderstandings in the process.