@ErrantSun7 For the record, my go-to is girl (male) - tongue in cheek, obvious what it's about, and a funny reference to a weeb meme without it being explicitly sexual.
@ErrantSun7 There is no good word for crossdressing here in the west. Crossdresser gets used as an insult or by the worst people you know, femboy is used by insane people, the t word is a slur, and any japanese term westernized (like "otokonoko") is usually just a sign you're a dumb weeb.