Before I give up on people, I always make sure I really try. I always give more chances than I should, and I always try to find understanding in their actions. That way when I give up I know I'm done for good, and nobody can act surprised when they don't hear from me again
Getting hurt by the man who wanted you first is so embarrassing. You did not ask for the connection initially, they convinced you to lower your guard, only to leave you holding the emotional weight of a dynamic they created...