nox 🌃

Curious cat. Observing and thinking ☕️📚 New account, same old username

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

Don't be so eager to pour out poison for others to drink. They have no need of it. Neither do you.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

It's crazy how much more alive I feel when I'm interested in something. And it's unfair how unreliable that interest is.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

I guess it all can tie in with how I made friends with people who were individuals first and didn't force conformity on anyone. Disagreement wasn't seen as conflict. If someone said they disliked something, no one needed to pretend to feel the same.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

I never struggled with female friendships. I always had good friends. I got along well with many people. Especially if they were talkative. I had friends who disliked each other and I didn't mind that they didn't get along. That was their business.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

All of this is pretty common but not in terms of internet narrative.
Also, having some "male coded" interests doesn't mean being one of the boys. Maybe that goes without saying, but idk. There's so much silly categorization and poorly made inferences going around.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

How you think about a problem often tells you something about the way you think. It doesn't always tell you ablout the problem.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

Some say, though not explicitly, "I'm so tired of being placed in a role I always show up for and never say no to. I'm so tired of no one acknowledging the toll it takes on me even though I never told anyone about it."
And they just stay in that situation.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

If you're really trying to be something, it points to your not being that thing. If you're working on it, sure, you're in progress. But the ease of being is not there. You wouldn't need to try otherwise.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

No really, it's not good to go around thinking people are threatened by you. Threatened by your ideas, how you express yourself. "They must be so triggered by me."
Let them dislike you for whatever reason. Just as you might have other reasons. Or do you typically feel threatened?

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

Words and sentences come with posture and tone. They tell you something about how they're held, where the breath is, the tension, the pace. And yet people might stick to seeing it all like a dictionary to uncode. Others confuse their personal reactions for the content.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

Not to say I do it all the time. That would be crazy.
But there's something about how it's possible to step into a feeling and speak from within it. Or listen to it. See what opens up from within that space.
Idk what it requires, but some can do it and others can't.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

I can take on thoughts and feelings like an actor might. Not acting as in pretend. Embody it in truth.
I'm not good at pretending.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

I am as I feel and think in the moment

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

How come "romanticize your life" seems to mean "look at your life as if from outside but with an aesthetic"

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

What counts as a standard for evidence is evaluated differently for different puposes. Those who do that sort of work know it.
Many act as if it is more rigid and narrow than it actually is.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

Some things aren't evidence based simply because they can't be measured by such a standard.
People forget such things.

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

Are your ideas stepping stones or destinations

[nox 🌃 @noxandthewaves]

Are your ideas open doors or closed