If we're being honest, the average Nigerian influencer loves an Olodo/beggar saturated timeline.
Their entire content revolves around Broke-shaming and Olodo-shaming.
If everybody starts making sense, how would they even survive?
Got this exact question in my community yesterday and these are my thoughts:
First, stop trying to feel calm. You won’t. The nerves are not the problem. The problem is walking in unprepared so the nerves run the show.
Don’t memorise answers. You’ll forget them the second they word the question differently. Pick a few real stories from your own work and know them well. You won’t forget things that actually happened to you.
Keep one cheat sheet page for yourself for quick revisions. Not full answers. Just a few words to jog your memory, two or three numbers that show what you’ve done, and two questions to ask them. When your mind goes blank, one word brings it all back.
Sort your body out, not your head. Breathe out slower than you breathe in. Warm your hands up before you go in. Your body calms down faster than your thoughts will.
It’s okay to pause. Say “great question, then give yourself some 2-3 secs as though you are thinking of the answer” Sitting in silence for a moment makes you look senior. Rushing to talk will put your articulation at risk.
And honestly, remember who these people are. They’re strangers. They don’t feed you. You don’t owe them anything. You’re not there to beg them to pick you, you’re there to see if you even want them. Once you stop performing for people you don’t know, half the fear goes.
The last bit from me is your physical carriage will inform your mind. If you sit and then cross your legs for instance, your brain immediately thinks: Oh, this is a friendly conversation and it is responds to you that way. But if you sit uptight, it signals formality and challenge. So tell your brain through your posture the kind of experience you want.
That’s it. You don’t really get rid of the anxiety. You just walk in ready enough that it can’t take over.
My top 3 observations of successful people:
📌 They act right away. There’s almost no gap between a bright idea they’ve made up their minds to build and when they start working on it.
📌 They don’t stay confused for long. They pick up their phones, call others who may know the answer or consult to get to the answers quickly.
📌 They don’t stay around trying to make good, perfect. They have a threshold for ‘decent’ and they optimise for that. They do not sit around too long for details that don’t matter.
Your name is John, and someone calls you Peter. You tell them not to call you Peter because that's not your name. But they keep calling you, Peter.
The issue is not with the person calling you Peter; the issue is with you who is responding.
If your name isn’t Peter, they ain't talking to you.
The most dangerous moment in a relationship is not the explosive argument.
It's the day he simply stops fighting for it.
It happens one unacknowledged effort at a time. He tries to provide stability, tries to be present, and tries to be enough. But no matter what he does, his efforts are dismissed and something always feels missing.
So, he stops speaking up. He swallows it and keeps moving forward. But internally, a piece of that foundation breaks.
Eventually, he convinces himself of something devastating... that no matter how hard he tries, he will never be enough, and he will never feel truly valued.
That internal realization is far more destructive than any fight.
When a man stops believing he matters to his partner, he stops fighting. He just disappears. He might still be in the house, fulfilling his responsibilities, and operating as part of the single unit, but emotionally, he's already gone.
Real partnership requires mutual acknowledgment and personal accountability.
Don't wait until the silence sets in to realize what you've stopped valuing.