I’ve learned that sometimes the people I try the hardest to please don’t value my effort the way I think they do. While I’m exhausting myself trying to make them comfortable, they may already see my presence as something they merely tolerate. That is why I’ve learned to pay attention to what is felt, not just what is said, because not every open door is an invitation to stay. I think wisdom is learning to leave quietly where you were never fully welcomed in the first place.
normalize leaving people to avoid empathy burnout. yes, i love you, but i am tired of having to ask you to consider me, and i am tired of you not seeing where you went wrong.