i’m not falling for chemistry ever again. chemistry can be felt with anyone. it’s not special or unique. chemistry can fade or change with time depending on individual growth. someone’s character, values and morals are what stand the test of time and mark true compatibility.
Anyone can say they want to be with you.
But commitment is an action.
Commitment to someone means learning about their past, their triggers, and what they value in partnership.
Commitment to someone means having self awareness so you don't make promises you cannot keep.
Commitment to someone means getting out of our comfort zone to show love in ways that might not come naturally to us.
Commitment to someone means telling the truth even when it causes discomfort and it's easier to tell a white lie.
Commitment to someone means doing small things to show your gratitude that the person lives life along side of you.
Commitment to someone means taking care of your mind, body, and soul so that you can be the best version of yourself.
Commitment to someone means you don't run when feelings fade because you have the maturity to understand relationships aren't a fairy tale.
Commitment to someone means practicing emotional regulation so that you can have difficult conversations.
Commitment to someone means learning how to cope with being disappointed at times so that you can give your partner the grace.
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Believe me when I say, there will come a time in your life when people will regret the way they treated you. Even if they never apologize, they’ll reflect on all the damage they caused you.
a simple technique i began using to reflect upon my friendships & relationships was asking myself "does the bond i have with this person strengthen me?" whether that person provides laughter, fun or kindness. do i feel mostly energized by what i share with them or mostly drained?