remy 💫 (she/her)

🇨🇦 | 26 | autism/adhd | if i block u its nothing personal u were probably just talking shit about someone i like and i couldnt be paid enough to listen 💕

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

im gonna,,, give myself a pfp soon

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

and YES its hard to be autistic even when ur parents are helping, but using that to discount other people with autism because "well i have 2 boys with autism and they would NEVER do that" like great im very happy they have parents who taught them better !! not all of us do !!

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

its SO hard talking to parents of autistic kids about how hard it is to have autism because they have a kid being actively supported and guided through autism, and most of us had to figure it out without our parents and that makes our experiences very different !!

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

if ur kid started learning coping strategies and how to regulate their autism at a young age then OF COURSE they will be more well behaved than someone with a similar level of autism who wasnt diagnosed until 25 and are learning those coping strategies now - while working !!

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

yikes this is getting past discussion and is just people being mean about people with developmental disabilities so imma shut this down lmao thank u to people who are nice i hope u find work with people who understand u 💕

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

i love how quickly people expose that they dont think you should be employed if you have developmental disabilities lol like people who have meltdowns unfortunately also need jobs ????

[TaxedBrass @FakeTaxedBrass]

I actually think it's totally reasonable to fire someone for curling up on the floor and crying

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@Frottastic @I_ReadNews crazy how OP said they are a site team member and not a teacher - obviously there are situations (like teaching children) where it isnt acceptable, but people with developmental delays still need jobs and if it isnt in the maintenance/administrative field then where is it ??

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@I_ReadNews i cannot stress how much i dont care what is "acceptable behaviour" to you !! be grumpy about it all u want tho ig

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@tako_fren literally !! people hate admitting that in a world where you have to make money to live, denying employment and financial supports to autistic people until they are "acting right" is cruel if u cant offer an alternative that isnt just "get a job where no one ever sees you" lol

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

being unable to process stress isnt fun !! nobody is doing this for fun so idk why everyone loves to fight it like an adult is happy they had a meltdown at work, they suck !! YOU try keeping a job when u cry any time you feel any strong emotion !! it sucks !!

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@ladynightshade6 but not when anyone is there lol god forbid u see an autistic person acting autistic 😱

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@I_ReadNews im not saying "oh its ok to cry on the floor at work" im saying that wanting someone fired for it is silly lol if we are gonna allow ppl with autism in the workplace it is unfortunately part of the package for a lot of people. its not preferred but its their reality u cant change

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@I_ReadNews maybe ur homeless because u cant mind ur business idk

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@ladynightshade6 they said they work on a site team lol if they do interact with children its rarely, it does not seem like they are just having a breakdown around children in a school lol its a maintenance/administrative role from what a google search tells me

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@AnalWhisperer i have it figured out thanks !! i just have sympathy for people who havent been able to access as much support as i have :) they still need money to live idk what to tell u

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@ByAllMeansMovie i know its probably nothing but i cannot get over the fact he tells kat and bobby that the backrooms has a pool and thats exactly where clark ended up during the chase scene right after that

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@mushm0on i can only assume it depends on ur skin !! if coconut oil works better go for it but i can only advise u to test it somewhere small to see how fast it rubs off during casual wear if ur not sure about it lasting more than a few minutes !! god speed i have faith in u

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

1000 words was my daily fanfiction writing goal in grade 6 y'all need to stretch ur brains !!

[Alyssa Leader @alittleleader]

The weirdest thing about this discourse for me has been realizing how many people think that 1000 words is a borderline unreadable amount of material.

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@realJackEason i feel like a big part of the issue (for me at least) is prioritizing what to be on time for - like u dont need to be on time to EVERYTHING but there are situations where its important. Like being late to a meeting is worse than showing up late to a party, but i had to learn that

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@kotowicult ty !! my boyfriend is adhd and his family is happy to be late to something if it means they show up relaxed and in a decent mood, which i kind of admire lol my family was always rushing to be 5-10 minutes early and i would ALWAYS forget at least one thing and be stressed 😭

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@kotowicult so its literally just priorities imo - some people prioritize being on time over their health and some prioritize their health and would rather just apologize for being late. if its 10x harder for someone to be on time, they have to let some things go to make it happen IMO

[remy 💫 (she/her) @nymph50d4]

@kotowicult like if i am focused on getting there 5 minutes early like i usually do, i will forget dumb things like my bank card, or forget to eat because im trying to get there !! on time !! but then i get there im grumpy and have nothing i was supposed to bring bc i wanted to be on time 😭