this whole “cut your friends off if they refuse to leave an abusive relationship” shit is so wild because you know the ultimate goal of the abuser is isolation and when you keep giving your friends these ultimatums, you align more with the abuser to them than you think
One thing I still find shocking is how much self-regulating you have to do as an adult. Okay, you are going through stuff but somehow you have to process, deal with it, heal and carry on because life doesn’t pause.