This is the reason so many men self sabotage when they do find a woman who mirrors healthy relational patterns and open and honest communication. When somebody has never had something healthy modelled to them, they’ll view everything through the lens of toxicity that they’ve known. A woman wanting to genuinely talk things through for resolve, will simply be seen as ‘nagging’ or ‘refusing to move on’.
Disappearing on your partner after conflict when they need clarity or closeness is not giving yourself space. It is emotional abuse. The anxiety and abandonment wounds it creates are very real.
I fear the hottest relationship dynamic is when a woman acts like a chaotic little creature and the man finds it genuinely hilarious instead of spiritually exhausting. Like, he’s not trying to tame her he’s just entertained, deeply fond, and occasionally wondering what the hell is going on 😭
one thing i do love abt me is how i treat people even in the midst of my own storm. i'll be HURT ASF, still won't hit below the belt. i gain nun from purposely hurting anybody especially sb i say i love and care abt