On a Monday morning in March 2023, Amara Nwosu woke up to discover she had bought a house.
She had not bought a house.
She had never signed any document.
She had never met the seller.
But somewhere in the Lagos land registry, her BVN, her NIN, her signature — perfect, precise, indistinguishable from the one she had used her entire adult life — had authorised the purchase of a property worth ₦47 million.
And the loan taken to buy it was in her name.
Amara was 34.
A data analyst at a telecoms firm in Victoria Island.
She was the kind of person who used different passwords for different accounts, who read privacy policies, who had set up two-factor authentication on everything she owned before most Nigerians knew what two-factor authentication meant.
She was, professionally and personally, a woman who understood how data worked.
Which is why, when she saw the loan alert on her phone at 6:47am, her blood went cold in a specific way.
Not panic.
Recognition.
Someone had been inside her life.
I finally understand what Machiavelli meant when he said, “Never play fair in a game where others cheat.” It doesn’t mean become evil. It means stop being naive. Stop bringing honesty to people who study manipulation, stop giving access to people who weaponize closeness, and stop expecting clean hands from people who already showed you they’ll throw dirt. Sometimes wisdom is not revenge. Sometimes wisdom is learning the rules of the room before the room uses your goodness against you.
In 1987, Baba Adeleke bought land in Ibeju-Lekki.
It cost him ₦12,000.
He was a primary school teacher. It took him three years to save that money.
He built nothing on it. Just held it. Told his four children it was their future.
He died in 2019 believing he had given them something.
He had no idea what he had actually given them.
🧵 A thread.
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A worried dad walked up to me after my presentation today. He said, “Please help me. I want to monitor what my children are doing online, the apps they use, the sites they visit, everything. I just want to keep them safe.”
I felt his concern deeply. The internet today is polluted with things we don’t want our children exposed to, inappropriate content, strangers, cyberbullying, and endless distractions. As parents, we can’t leave this to chance. We need to be intentional.
If you’re a parent with kids 13 years and below, this is for you.
The good news?
You don’t need to be a tech expert or install complicated spy apps. Google has made it simple and free with Google Family Link. Here’s the easiest way to monitor and guide your children’s online activities:
Google Family Link (Best for Android phones & tablets) It lets you:
1. See exactly which apps and websites your child uses and for how long
2. Set daily screen time limits and “Downtime” (e.g., no devices after 8pm)
3. Approve or block new apps before they are installed.
4. Filter inappropriate content on YouTube, Google Search, Chrome, and the Play Store
5. Track location (with their knowledge)
How to set it up in under 15 minutes:
1. On your phone, download the Google Family Link app from the Play Store.
2. On your child’s device, create a supervised Google Account for them (or link their existing one).
3. Open Family Link on your phone and follow the simple prompts to link their device.
4. Set your rules: screen limits, content filters, app approvals, etc.
That’s it. From your own phone, you now have full visibility and control.
For iPhone/iPad users:
Use Apple’s built-in Screen Time + Family Sharing (also completely free). Go to Settings → Screen Time → “Set Up Screen Time for Family”.
For Windows PC or Laptop:
Use Microsoft Family Safety, same idea for browsing and screen time control.
Important reminder:
Technology is a great tool, but it’s not enough by itself.
Have open, age-appropriate conversations with your children. Teach them why you’re doing this and let them know they can always come to you if something online makes them feel uncomfortable.
The goal is not to spy, it’s to guide and protect while they learn to navigate the digital world responsibly.
Después de más de 4.000 operaciones entendí algo:
Los traders rentables no toman mejores decisiones porque sean más inteligentes.
Las toman porque siguen un proceso.
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Married for more than a decade now.
I have never thought of that question before.
Have we quarreled? Yes. But how we manage the quarrel was a different thing. I am using the word "was" here because we rarely do nowadays.
Having conflict resolution skills is very important in marriage.
The first few years were used to be totally truthful and transparent. It is the only way we know how to grow.
One thing for sure is, I have enjoyed this marriage with my wife.
But for the young guys out there, getting here is not luck.
You have to be smart about who you pick.
Anybody can fake it for the first few months.
The oldest trick is just acting exactly how you want them to act, just to pull you in.
They will hide the crazy until they think you are locked in.
So take your time. Tell her "no" and see what happens.
Watch her when she is mad or stressed out.
That is when you see who she really is.
Watch what happens when she makes a mistake.
If you point it out and she starts crying, flips it around, or blames you, walk away.
If she can't just say "I was wrong," she will make your life a nightmare. She will make miserable look like child's play.
Look at how she handles money. Is she trying to live like she's rich and expecting you to pay for it? Don't let her spend all your cash just to show off.
Listen to how she talks about her past. If every ex or old friend she has is "toxic" and she was always the victim, guess what? She is the problem. Soon enough, you'll be the next bad guy in her story.
Ohhh, and watch how she is with family. Watch how she acts when things go wrong, and how she treats them when she is angry.
Because sooner or later, if you marry her, you will be her family.
The signs are always there... people just let emotions cloud their judgment.
Looks don't mean much if she has a bad character.
Keep your eyes open, take things slow, and don't ignore the warning signs just because she is pretty.
The wealthiest people on earth are not following the financial advice they give you on television.
They are following a different set of laws entirely.
Laws encoded in ancient texts thousands of years before the first bank was ever built.
Laws that were deliberately removed from your education.
Read carefully. Here are 7 of them:
i don’t know if these are survival tips but they might help;
1. i treat savings like a bill. the moment money comes in, a percentage leaves my account before i even think about spending it.
2. i avoid lifestyle inflation, just because my income increases doesn’t mean my expenses should rise with it.
3. i keep an invisible account. money goes in, but there’s no card attached and no easy access, so spending it takes deliberate effort.
4. i buy quality once instead of replacing cheap things repeatedly, the upfront cost hurts but the long term savings are worth it.
5. i follow a strict 48 hr rule for non essential purchases. if i still want it after 2 days, then i consider it buying it.
6. i always keep an emergency cash buffer. it prevents panic and protects me from making bad financial decisions under pressure.
7. i track small daily expenses. snacks, rides, gifts and impulse purchases often drain more money than the big expenses.
8. whenever a new financial commitment enters my life, something else has to go, it keeps spending under control and prevents silent lifestyle creep.
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