Oberia Haines

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@CarrieWilbur1 @jzux What a relief. 💕

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@jzux This has me impressed and cracking up for being exactly what it is.
😅😅😅

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@EmilyKnoth No?

Five cesareans.
One NICU stay.
Zero chaplains.

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@KyleJamesHoward To heal the marriage I've had to become proactive and direct about explaining to my husband that we don't appease our wife's abusers or seek their approval.

That's not peacemaking; that's perpetuating further abuse.

These are things I shouldn't need to explain to survive.

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@KyleJamesHoward As an actual survivor, I've been wondering the same.

Some months back I pointed out to my spouse how his being more incensed by my consensual sexual past than the men that assaulted me is not love but objectification.

You're on to something here.
Not all men, but too many.

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@KyleJamesHoward 👀👀👀👀 This haunts me.
They're still in our communities and city boards and ... Pulpits.

And how often does an old pastor get up and say, "But the Lord saved me from racism, and that's why I changed the way I vote"?

Apparently we were ALL on the right side of history?

[Peter Taylor @Thankful4Her]

The story of Potiphar’s wife falsely accusing Joseph of sexual assault is not to demonstrate that women falsely accuse men, but to demonstrate that those with power are believed and valued more than those without.

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@racheljwelcher I get whatever memory foam Amazon delivers for cheapest (usually under $500), but if I had all the money in the world, I would try the memory foam for obese couples.
I think the ads I saw were for Titan, but Forbes breaks down the competition here:

https://t.co/ISxDZO0eiz

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@sheologian This was absolutely my first thought.
Those babies.

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@exfundiediary

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@jameshamblin There's a WHAT?

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@exfundiediary Thank you for your kindness. 💕

It'll be okay. We're in recovery.
We see the spiritual abuse at the root of it all.

We're raising 3 boys (+2grls) and talk often about how to avoid the same mistakes regarding their sexuality.

You just have to #KeepGrowingForward, ya know?
✊🏻💕

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@exfundiediary 🙋🏻‍♀️ Married another PC "survivor" and found out that he's a sex addict:

He doesn't have a low sex drive so much as it's only aroused by my "same ol' body" once in a while.

Even since sobriety (18 mo), the sober sex drive is not that excited about me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yay, Purity Culture. 🎉

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@viaexmachina @laurchastain22 Perspective: I want to go to medical school to practice Psychiatry, so I can pay for seminary to STUDY scripture.
Not be a pastor.
Just study.
Deeply.
Intimately.
Well.

I hope I don't have a professor like that. 😬😬😬🤷🏻‍♀️

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@viaexmachina @laurchastain22 Worse. His bio says he's a professor at Grace Bible Theological Seminary.
All of that anti-woman prejudice is leading in the classroom when we walk in to study scripture. 😬

Wait. Does that mean he got an advanced degree in "professors' ministry"?

Just... Curious.

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@kristi_mccall No one's been more hateful to vets than the Right the last several years.

They only love us if we do what they say.

That's an abuse dynamic. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@KaitlynSchiess I guess times (or maybe youth pastors?) haven't changed that much in twenty years. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

#VladTVBeLike
This scoffer has over 1M subscribers, and he's out here laughing at a #ChildhoodSexualAbuse victim to his face.

People who regularly join the mocking:
"Why didn't the victims SAY anything?!" 🤷🏻‍♀️

Where did #HarveyWeinstein and #JeffreyEpstein come from, I wonder?

[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

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[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

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[Oberia Haines @oberiahaines]

@JackieHillPerry #VladTVBeLike
This scoffer has over 1M subscribers, and he's out here laughing at a #ChildhoodSexualAbuse victim to his face.

People who regularly join the mocking:
"Why didn't the victims SAY anything?!" 🤷🏻‍♀️

Where did #HarveyWeinstein and #JeffreyEpstein come from, I wonder?