Kadang kadang kita cut off people bukan sebab they’re bad, tapi sebab their energy no longer matches ours. I dont hate you, I just learned that access to me is a privilege, not a right. Tak semua orang yang pernah ada dalam hidup kita layak stay sampai penghujung cerita.
Why do avoidants chase after vulnerable, intense, open, and honest people?
Bro, go date someone who thrives on small talk and surface level vibes 😭
Y’all are draining the life out of the rest of us.
The avoidant lost YOU.
They lost a person that loved them
unconditionally. They lost a person that gave them full effort. They lost a person that truly cared about them and had empathy for them. You lost a person that is emotionally unavailable. You lost a person that is entirely self focused in relationships. You lost a person that lacked empathy for you.
So..... who REALLY lost out here? It isn't you. THEY lost YOU.
First they hurt you, then they avoid you, and finally they punish you with silence. They walk away from the damage they caused, while you're left carrying the confusion, the sleepless nights, and the questions they never cared to answer.
Sorry, but a partner who ruins your mental health cannot be the love of your life. Ever. I know you love them. I know you've built a future in your mind with them. I know you keep hoping they’ll change, that things will get better, that the good moments will eventually outweigh the bad.
But here's the truth you need to hear: real love doesn't destroy you. Real love doesn't leave you anxious, depressed, constantly questioning yourself, walking on eggshells, or losing pieces of who you are. That's not love, that's trauma bonding.
Doa tak tukar apa yang dah ditetapkan di Luh Mahfudz. Doa “melepaskan” apa yang dah jadi takdir kau, sampai kepada kau seperti rezeki kau. Anggap doa tu macam kunci nak buka pintu rezeki kau.