Let's stop sugarcoating it. Ghosting is rude. It's immature. It's selfish. And it's pathetic. I don't care if it's a friendship, a talking stage, or a relationship. Disappearing on someone who's been consistently showing up for you is not "protecting your peace." It's avoiding accountability and honest communication.
Me: CALLS I.T....Hi my laptop is doing something weird.
IT guy: What kind of weird?
Me: It's just. Being weird.
IT guy: Can you be more specific.
Me: It's making a sound.
IT guy: What kind of sound.
Me: Like. A thinking sound. But angrier.
IT guy: PAUSE.......Have you tried turning it off and on again?
Me: I feel like you ask everyone that.
IT guy: I ask everyone that because everyone needs to hear it.
Me: What if I already tried that.
IT guy: Did you?
Me: ...Define tried.
IT guy: Did you turn it off.
Me: I closed the screen.
IT guy: LONGEST EXHALE IN HUMAN HISTORY...... That's not turning it off.
Me: It goes dark. It sleeps. Is that not essentially off?
IT guy: It is not essentially off. It is essentially a nap. We need to turn it off.
Me: Okay okay doing it now. TURNS OFF LAPTOP......Now what.
IT guy: Turn it back on.
Me: That's it?
IT guy: That's it.
Me: TURNS IT ON..... Oh. It's fine. The sound is gone.
IT guy: Great.
Me: You're like a witch doctor.
IT guy: I'm going to hang up now.