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[Ogundele Oluyemi John @olajohn111]

@boye4christ2006 Benin Passport is better than Nigeria passport in ranking

[Glorious God @GloriousGod01]

Men don't forgive cheating. And the best thing any woman can do for herself after being caught cheating, is to walk out of the relationship.

Don't let him tell you that he has forgiven you because he hasn't. He just cannot stop thinking that another man slept with you under his nose.

If you're seeing this, make sure you break up with him. Forgiveness doesn't always mean you should get back together.

Above all, love God.

[Melanin Queen👑🌹 @onlyone_success]

A woman cheats in plain sight. She will introduce you to her "male friends" and expect you to believe there is nothing going on.

Those men she calls "friends" are not friends. They are men waiting for their turn. And if you think you are the only one, you are the fool.

[Yehgha @yaygha]

"I have outgrown him"
"Did I force you to do all these things for me"
"I cannot continue with a man who earns less than me"

Nigerian elders continue to show us that getting older & getting wiser are two entirely different things

Whether that be in governance or relationships

[Walter 🇳🇬 🇵🇭 🇨🇦 @gamerwalt]

If she disrespects you, it is strictly because you demonstrated that she can.

Women run a constant, subconscious audit of your boundaries.

The very first time she raised her voice or mocked your authority, you backed down to keep the peace.

Now she views you as completely harmless.

A harmless man is a useless man.

You cannot negotiate respect after you have already surrendered your leverage.

The only way to correct the dynamic is to enforce a boundary so severe it shocks the system.

Be dangerous.

[Ogundele Oluyemi John @olajohn111]

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[Reads with Ravi @readswithravi]

“There are three qualities to look for in a partner: intelligence, energy, and integrity. You need all three. You can't compromise on any one of them.”

— Naval Ravikant

[Ìfẹ́ @diaryofa9jagirl]

Some of you don’t love your husbands. You love the provision. The moment he can no longer provide, he’s no longer worthy of your love, patience or respect.

You’re no better than the man who only loves his wife while she’s young, beautiful and can cook.

[Pablo 🎱 @supuypweza]

Man to man. The wrong woman will drain you dry and still say you were not enough.

[Oku @oku_yungx]

Not trying to brag but i have never been denied a visa. No country can actually do that. They need me as much as i need them.

Some people’s realities are different.

You just accept them like that.

I don’t fast or pray to get VISA. I apply and wait for it to be granted.

The only country i country i have no visa on is AUSTRALIA and that is totally because i am not interested and business don’t take me there.

WE CRUISE ONLINE BUT KNOW IT IS JUST TWITTER. Reality is where it all matters.

[Nanaba Scorpee @nanaba_scorpee]

Once she leaves you for another man, she will never be the same girl who loved you.

Never accept her back.

[Walter 🇳🇬 🇵🇭 🇨🇦 @gamerwalt]

Divorce her.

I honestly do not know what else is needed.

Reporting her to her mum? What was that to do?

[Adetoro Daniel Official @adetorodanielX]

“Pay attention to warning ‼️ signals before marriage”

~ Apostle Micheal Oropko

[Walter 🇳🇬 🇵🇭 🇨🇦 @gamerwalt]

Most men vet attraction and call it character.

10 ways to vet a woman of good character before marriage.

1. Tell her NO: Set one reasonable boundary and watch whether she can accept disappointment without insults, threats, silent punishment or suddenly questioning your masculinity, because anybody who only respects you when getting what they want does not respect you; they respect access.

2. Correct her: Point out something she genuinely did wrong and watch whether she can examine herself before producing a list of your own offences, because marriage becomes exhausting when every attempt at accountability must first survive a counterattack.

3. Watch how she treats people beneath her socially: Pay attention to waiters, cleaners, drivers, security guards and junior staff, because courtesy toward people you want to impress is manners, but courtesy toward people who cannot improve your life is evidence of character.

4. Disagree with her: Have a real disagreement and watch whether she attacks the problem or attacks your dignity, because criticism, contempt, defensiveness and withdrawal are not harmless "communication styles"; destructive conflict patterns have been linked to poorer relationship outcomes and divorce.

5. Reduce the spending: Tell her that a trip, wig, restaurant, apartment or lifestyle upgrade does not fit the budget right now and watch whether she adjusts like a partner or treats reduced spending as reduced love, because financial conflict is unusually repetitive and difficult for couples to resolve.

6. Study her friends: Listen to what her closest circle praises, excuses and laughs about, because a woman surrounded by people who normalize cheating, public disrespect, reckless spending or contempt for husbands will need unusually strong character not to slowly redefine dysfunction as normal.

7. Watch her family boundaries: See whether her mother, siblings and cousins can advise her without controlling her decisions, because marrying somebody who cannot respectfully tell family "this is our decision" means you are not building a marriage of two adults... you are joining a committee.

8. Listen to her stories about former relationships: If every ex was evil, every former friend was jealous, every boss hated her and she has somehow never contributed to any broken relationship, stop admiring the storytelling and start checking the math, because mature people can identify their own mistakes.

9. Watch her when another woman wins: Notice what happens when her friend gets married, promoted, travels, buys property or receives something she wants, because ambition says "I want that too," while envy needs another person's blessing to become evidence that her own life is failing.

10. Compare the public woman with the private woman: Anyone can look peaceful in church, respectful around parents and supportive on Instagram, so judge the version you see when she is tired, angry, inconvenienced and certain nobody important is watching, because repeated behaviour is harder to fake than presentation.

You are not looking for perfection.

You are looking for respect, accountability, emotional control, boundaries and consistency.

Beauty gets attention. Character determines the cost of keeping her.

Selah!

[Ogundele Oluyemi John @olajohn111]

@gamerwalt It's well ni o. You would be hearing you are insecure and can't tell me how to live my life. Stop being controlling

[Walter 🇳🇬 🇵🇭 🇨🇦 @gamerwalt]

Your husband tells you he does not want a particular man constantly calling you at night.

Instead of asking why the friendship is making your marriage uncomfortable, you immediately reach for the fashionable words... insecurity, control, jealousy.

But this same "harmless friend" knows when you and your husband fight, knows what your husband earns, knows what frustrates you sexually, and somehow always has time when your marriage is having a bad week.

At some point, stop insulting everybody's intelligence.

If protecting one friendship requires repeatedly disturbing the peace of your marriage, be honest about which relationship you are actually protecting.

[𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐨𝐫 𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐮𝐬 @mentormqsculus]

A man who forgives a woman for cheating will never be respected by her.

Forgiving a woman for what she knows should never be forgiven will cost you her respect.

[Walter 🇳🇬 🇵🇭 🇨🇦 @gamerwalt]

A woman who keeps backup men around while demanding complete trust from her husband is playing a very dangerous game.

The old boyfriend who "just checks in."

The male friend who knows every argument in your marriage.

The colleague you suddenly start confiding in whenever your husband disappoints you.

None of these things look serious enough individually, which is exactly how people convince themselves there is no problem.

But intimacy does not begin in a hotel room.

It begins when somebody outside your marriage becomes the person who understands you better than the person inside it.

If your marriage matters, protect the boundary before you need to explain the betrayal.

Selah!

[Ogundele Oluyemi John @olajohn111]

@francis_ranco @USinNigeria Good decode

[Walter 🇳🇬 🇵🇭 🇨🇦 @gamerwalt]

You prayed for a responsible husband.

You said you wanted a man who works, provides, stays faithful, protects his home and does not run away from responsibility.

Then you married one. But somewhere along the line, you quietly added another requirement.

He must also agree with you whenever you are upset.

Now every disagreement becomes evidence that he does not love you.

Every boundary becomes "control."

Every time he refuses to be manipulated by tears, silence or public embarrassment, suddenly he is "emotionally unavailable."

Be very careful.

You can destroy a good marriage trying to turn a good man into an obedient man.

A husband is not automatically wrong because your feelings are hurt. Sometimes your feelings are simply reacting to a boundary you do not like.

And if peace in your marriage only exists when you get your way, that is control with soft music playing in the background.

Audit yourself before you turn a disagreement into a character assassination.

A mature woman does not need to win every argument to know she is loved.