@AnitaE91496@Coachie01 It is called myiasis. The fly lays egg on your cloth, maybe the cloth was damp and you wore it.
Then the larvae is what burrowed into your skin and causes something like a boil that when you press it this maggot comes out.
Make sure your clothes are in a place with sun.
Yesterday, May 19th, in Abuja, I attended the Presidential screening organised by our party, which took over two and a half hours. They carefully reviewed all my documents, including my degree certificates, NYSC credentials, and age declarations.
During the process, I also addressed questions regarding my vision for a new Nigeria and the type of leadership our nation urgently needs right now. Following this, I was cleared and received the presidential nomination form I had previously paid for.
I would like to commend the screening committee, led by former governor Sam Egwu, for their thorough and professional approach. Additionally, I appreciate our party's leadership for upholding the democratic process.
A New Nigeria is POssible. - PO
@piggyvest@piggyvest I’ve been unable to set new withdrawal date. And my withdrawal date still shows August 2025 for my piggy bank. And anytime I try to withdraw I’m always charged breaking fee even when I’m supposed to have a free withdrawal date. How do I deal with this
You can’t change someone. But you will anyway.
Not through arguments or ultimatums or that thing you do where you get really quiet and hope they’ll notice you’re upset. (They never do, by the way. They just think you’re tired.) You’ll change them the way water changes stone, by being around them long enough that they start to see themselves through your eyes.
I dated someone who interrupted everyone. Constantly. Mid-sentence, mid-thought, didn’t matter. It drove me insane for months. Then one night at dinner with friends, I watched her do it again, and this time she caught herself. She looked at me, then back at the person she’d cut off, and said, “Sorry, keep going.” Nobody else even noticed. But I knew: she’d started hearing herself the way I heard her.
That’s the thing they don’t mention when they say “accept people as they are.” You do accept them. And then they feel that acceptance so deeply that they finally have enough safety to look at the parts of themselves they’ve been running from their whole lives. Not because you demanded it. Because you made space for it.
But here’s the trap: if you’re asking “can I change her” with a specific outcome in mind, you’ve already lost. You’re not in a relationship anymore. You’re in a renovation project. And people can smell that a mile away. They can feel when your love has conditions attached. It makes them smaller, more defended, and less likely to grow into anything you’d actually want. Honestly, it usually just makes them better at hiding.
The real question isn’t whether you can change someone. It’s whether you can love someone enough that they feel free to change themselves. And whether the direction they’re growing is toward you or away from you.
Sometimes you date someone, and she becomes kinder, more thoughtful, and more herself. Sometimes she becomes exactly who she’s always been, just louder. And sometimes, this is the one that hurts; she grows into someone beautiful. Just not someone beautiful for you.
You can’t control which one happens. You can only decide how long you’re willing to wait to find out.
Many nurses I met here in the uk were the one financing their home for the first few years of their relocation.
These are people who did not pay rent while in Nigeria.
These are people whose husbands were engineers, doctors, Lecturers in Nigeria but after relocation had to do menial jobs ti sustain the family.
The idea of “50/50 in marriage” sounds fair, modern, and balanced, but in real life, it’s one of the biggest fallacies we keep spreading.
Marriage has never worked on perfect arithmetic. It works on capacity, season, and sacrifice…not percentages.
Some days one partner will give 80 while the other gives 20.
Some seasons, one person will be strong, and the other will be fighting silent battles.
Some moments, one will carry the emotional weight, financial burden, or household responsibilities because the other is simply drained.
And that’s not failure.
That is marriage.
The truth is simple: no human being can wake up every day and contribute exactly “50.” People get tired. People get sick. People break down emotionally. People lose jobs. Life shifts. Energy fluctuates.
A healthy marriage is not two people calculating what the other has done, it is two people who are committed to showing up fully in whatever capacity they have each day.
Today you may carry your partner.
Tomorrow they may carry you.
Balance is achieved over time, not in one moment.
And here’s another reality people avoid:
Sometimes the person who is giving “30” is actually giving 100% of what they have in that season. And the partner giving “70” also gives because they can at that moment. That is partnership, not exploitation.
The people who survive marriage long-term understand one thing clearly:
Marriage is not 50/50. Marriage is 100/100.
Two people committed to giving their best, not an equal fraction, but a full effort according to their ability, their health, their season, and their reality.
When you insist on 50/50, you reduce marriage to a business contract.
When you understand 100/100, you embrace marriage as a covenant, a daily decision to love, support, and show up.
Some days you will be the one lifting.
Some days you will be the one leaning.
And that is perfectly fine.
Anyone who wants a mathematical marriage will never experience a meaningful one. Love has never been about counting. It has always been about giving.
@jon_d_doe This is very true. I wish more single women above 25 and below 30 would start understanding this.
Those 35+ men are not for you.They would drain you, would look down on you like you’re nothing.
Build with that younger man today, you both would definitely grow into what you want