To everyone 25–35:
You’ve hit the age where people start giving up on themselves—thinking it’s too late.
Don’t let that energy touch you.
It’s not too late.
A thread:
100DaysOfCode, some broad considerations and steps:
1. Find out if you want to explore DSA/leetcoding, or development.
2. If you want to go ahead with DSA, make a list of all the concepts you wish to learn by the end of 100 days. Maybe you want to get an overview of the topics, maybe you want to make it a habit, maybe you want to sprint and revise things you've already dipped your toes in.
Whatever your aim might be - decide where you want to be at the end. Be realistic. Factor in the fact that you might have a slow start, you might have to skip a day or four here and there, you might have a few sad days that might slow you down.
It's not like you're fuckin' Batman or some shit. Don't think you're immune to all this.
Keep a realistic end goal, and divide your calendar accordingly. Take an hour out, plan out each day, and try to stick to it as much as possible. Very religiously.
Also, be okay with changing your goals mid-way. It's alright.
3. If you're pursuing development - pick a stack, come up with a crazy good, fairly complex project idea that would take at least 2-3 weeks to complete in your chosen stack. By all means, have a conversation with ChatGPT to give you a list of ideas that match this requirement.
Come up with a plan to learn everything to get there. Ask ChatGPT about everything you'll need to learn to be able to build it. Ask it for sub-project ideas with increasing complexities to learn enough.
Divide your time into project-chunks. Learn -> build -> learn more -> build more.
2.5 weeks before your 100 days - begin building your masterpiece.
After 100 days - take time out to cover all the knowledge gaps you overlooked on the pursuit to build your masterpiece project. Shouldn't really take more than 2-3 weeks to go over those topics.
I don’t mean to sound like your mom but the lack of routine and discipline in life, waking up without purpose, being idle and spending too much time on the bed with your phone will lead to terrible mental health. That’s a given.
Your Imam might not say this before marriage… but ignoring it can cost you your peace.
Please marry someone who is close to your level of imaan and your halal–haram ratio. Don’t marry a “project” thinking you’ll fix them. That mindset doesn’t build marriage, it builds resentment and ends in divorce.
Compatibility in Islam is not just about vibes or families getting along. It’s about how seriously you both take Allah’s commands in your everyday life.
Look at the halal–haram ratio in practical terms:
- One of you won’t miss salah, the other “prays when I can.”
- One is careful about , the other sees it as “normal in today’s world.”
- One lowers the gaze and guards modesty, the other follows anything and everything online.
- One prioritizes halal income, the other is comfortable with “it’s not that serious", you cannot succeed without riba in this dunya.
- One is striving to memorize Qur’an, the other barely engages with it beyond Ramadan.
- One wants a simple, barakah-filled life, the other is chasing dunya at any cost.
These are not “small differences.” These are foundational fractures.
And even if you marry someone on a similar level, ask the harder question:
Where are we both trying to go?
Are you both content staying where you are… or are you actively trying to grow?
- Is he willing to earn less temporarily to pursue Islamic knowledge and live within halal limits?
- Is she willing to simplify her lifestyle while focusing on Qur’an, deen, and building a home with barakah?
- Are you both okay sacrificing certain comforts for the sake of Allah?
Many marriages don’t break because of lack of love, they break because of different directions in deen.
You’ll see it all the time:
- A couple starts off non-practicing. The husband becomes practicing, and suddenly expects his wife to wear niqab overnight. She’s not there yet. The gap creates tension, then distance.
- Or the wife grows in deen, while the husband doesn’t pray, deals in riba, and brings in haram income. She feels spiritually suffocated. The marriage collapses.
Growth is beautiful but misaligned growth can break a marriage.
Before you marry, have honest conversations:
What does your deen look like in 3 to 5 years?
What are your non-negotiables?
Where are you flexible and where are you not?
And be real about your own journey.
I’ve personally said no to proposals where I was asked to compromise on my niqab or where my goals like memorizing Qur’an were dismissed as “too much" or being extreme in deen.
And I’ve seen sisters rejected for wanting more modesty, or for being too active in the community, or not fitting someone else’s rigid expectations.
This goes both ways.
Also stop rushing reverts into marriage. Give them space to learn Islam, to breathe, to build a foundation. And please, leave the outdated obsession of fetishizing white reverts behind. This is deen, not a trend.
And one more thing:
If someone says, “This is how I am, I won’t change take it or leave it,” believe them. That’s not confidence that’s a lack of growth mindset. Their ego is guiding them and not the deen of Allah.
Choose someone who is humble enough to evolve. Who takes criticism. Who listens to their spouse.
It’s better to be single and at peace than married and constantly struggling in your soul.
Don’t marry someone far above you that you feel overwhelmed…
And don’t marry someone far below you that you feel alone in your deen.
Marry someone who is walking towards Allah at a pace you can walk together.
🤲 May Allah grant us spouses who grow with us in iman, who soften with reminders, and who walk with us towards Jannah until our last breath. May Allah protect us from unions that distance us from Him, and bless us with hearts that remain sincere, humble, and open to growth - Allahumma Ameen.
The uncomfortable truth is: everyone has to go through a phase of intense hard work at least once in their life.
For some, it's during school.
For others, it hits in college.
And for many, it comes later during their first job, first switch, second switch, or even beyond.
The catch?
The later you push that phase, the tougher it gets.
Early in life, the competition is smaller, the responsibilities are fewer, and the stakes are low. That’s when excellence is cheapest, in terms of effort, stress, and sacrifice.
But once reality hits, when bills show up, when you see your peers pulling ahead, when survival and growth clash, the grind becomes ten times harder. Because now you're competing with thousands who are hungry, experienced, and desperate for the same opportunity.
So yes, cracking something early (be it JEE, exams, a skill, or a career break) doesn’t “guarantee” life, but it gives you leverage. And leverage compounds.
Early excellence isn’t about privilege, it’s about momentum.
The sooner you build it, the longer you benefit from it.
@zwodden I have ordered it today, but fear there may be heavy custom charges, seller says ofcourse customs is not in their control, they just ship the product, if have any doubt he says to cancel and apply for a refund, shd I proceed ahead or go for a refund
Breaking News: Zohran Mamdani, a 34-year-old state lawmaker from Queens, will be the 111th mayor of New York. He will be the first Muslim to ever lead the city, as well as its first South Asian mayor and the youngest mayor in more than a century.
https://t.co/7tewUOBm0A
Urgent Appeal to Save Baby Jana Mutair (2 months old)
Jana suffers from widespread cancer and a very rare condition called Beckwith-Wiedemann syndrome, which has caused enlargement of her kidneys and tongue, a hole in her heart, and other severe complications threatening her life