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“Abuse, neglect, and incompatibility are real. But a person who makes her happiness the condition for commitment will eventually encounter a relationship unable to sustain that expectation.” - GSW

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

A modern man or woman will go to work on their worst day. Tired, hurt, angry, completely unmotivated — he or she still gets up, shows up, and does his or her job.
He or she manages his or her emotions. Meets deadlines. Deals with colleagues he or she doesn’t like, bosses who frustrate them, and days that grind them down. Nobody asks if they are happy first. Happiness is not a precondition for showing up.

Inside their relationship, however, the same person operates by a completely different standard.
If he or she is not happy, nobody’s going to be happy. If he or she is not fulfilled, he or she can’t perform his or her duties. If the relationship isn’t feeding him or her emotionally, it isn’t working. And if it isn’t working, it might be time to leave.

That gap between how he or she handles work and how he or she handles love is why so many modern relationships don’t last. Abuse, neglect, and incompatibility are real. But a person who makes her happiness the condition for commitment will eventually encounter a relationship unable to sustain that expectation.

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"The cure to depression is not always drugs Sometimes it is a new job, sometimes it is a new relationship, sometimes it is prayer, and sometimes it is self-care. Suffering is what humans do; Reigning is what believers do" GSW

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

A young lady graduated from UNILAG, and her family sold a lot of assets to sponsor her Master's in Software Engineering in the USA.
The day she got to New York, her laptop was stolen on the train, and so was her wallet
She reached out to some friends in the alumni group of her university, and someone reached out to help

This person drove her to her school, helped her with all her registration process, and also put some money in her pocket
He drove back and forth to spend time with her until she was settled into her apartment on campus

He also gave her his old laptop and was exceptionally nice to her.
They started a relationship some months later.
She was in the top five of her class
Life was good!

She graduated and was recruited out of Uni into the tech space to work for a very good firm
Her first salary and stock options were the best among her peers
She has arrived.

She met another man in the tech space
He showed serious interest in her and literally swept her off her feet
She had already slept with him before she remembered that she was in a serious relationship

She decided she would stick with this new man, who was a 10, and gently let go of her previous man, who was a 6
The morning after her sex with 10, he told her he was married and only slept with her because she threw herself at him

She cried all the way to her apartment to meet 6, sitting on the staircase leading to her apartment, looking seriously troubled
"What is the matter?" She asked
"I saw you and a man kissing and smooching at a restaurant yesterday. I came to pick up my stuff. It was good while it lasted."

She couldn't even say a word
She opened the door, he walked in and picked a few things he had in her apartment, and left.
She got to the office the next day and got the sack as soon as she walked in
It turned out that the 10 she slept with was married to the daughter of the founder of the company
She was not only sacked, she was also blacklisted in the tech space

She returned home and locked herself in her room.
She was heartbroken, ashamed, confused, disillusioned, hemmed in on every side, deeply sorrowful and only wanted to cry her eyes out.
She was there for three days

Friends and relatives had called and called without getting any response from her
Someone called her landlady
Her landlady called the police
They broke into her apartment and found her curled up in the bathroom
She was sedated and whisked off to the hospital

She woke up with a head full of cobwebs and foams
She had been placed on antidepressants
She was not depressed
She was just suffering as a consequence of several mistakes and a lack of good judgment

The drugs didn't help in any way
She got lethargic and became zombielike
She was eventually brought back to Nigeria
Pastors prayed, and doctors doctored
Nothing worked

The Brother in Jeans and a T-shirt eventually met with her
They had a long talk
She said she didn't believe the level of self-sabotage she threw herself into willfully
They laughed over a few matters
He encouraged her to write a letter of apology to both her ex-boyfriend and the wife of the man she slept with
No man is a 10 without a woman in his life, the best any man can be is a 9 when he is a bachelor
If you ever slept with a 10, he is married.
She moved from suffering to reigning
She recovered within a month

Today, she is back in the USA
Back in the tech space and pushing the boundaries of innovation
She is also in a relationship
He is a 7
The cure to depression is not always drugs
Sometimes it is a new job, sometimes it is a new relationship, sometimes it is prayer, and sometimes it is self-care
Suffering is what humans do
Reigning is what believers do

-GSW-

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“Human beings are one of the easiest beings to domesticate. Some of the most brilliant minds are so gullible, easy to program and manipulate by dullards in the name of spiritual leadership” - GSW

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

I met this young man some years ago
Handsome to look at, articulate, and very confident
A Christian, a father of two children, and a husband
He and his wife were attending a church somewhere in FESTAC
The pastor controls their home; by that I mean, the pastor controls his wife

The wife worked with an NGO
The husband worked with a bank, but he was one of those young men who learnt how to play the keyboard as a young man, and he was very good at it
It was what his wife saw in him that made her invite him to her church
It was the same thing the pastor saw that made him offer to give him leadership of the church choir and paid employment as choir director

He took the job because the offer was juicy but also because his wife, who was then just an acquintance followed him up closely on the offer
She went above and beyond to convince him to take the job
It was the above-and-beyond effort of this woman that led to her getting pregnant and subsequently to their marriage.

After they got married, this man realised that this pastor was an idol his wife worshipped
She was one of those women who lacked the ability to think for themselves or make any major decisions or even the minor ones, without the input and blessing of their pastor
It got so bad that whenever he dared question anything the pastor said, his wife would give him the silent treatment until he apologised or promised never to slander a "Man of God" anymore.

Things became worse after he got the conviction to take up a job abroad
The offer came out of nowhere, and it was a multinational opportunity that included sponsorship and allowance for his wife and family to help them relocate from any nation of the world to Canada.
He saw this as the answer to all his prayers.

First, the job was an opportunity of a lifetime.
Second, the job will keep as much distance as possible between his wife and this pastor, whom he was sure she was not having any physical relationship with, but who had taken over her mind completely
Third, he had wanted to leave his position as the choir director of that church for some years, but his wife made it clear to him that once he leaves the position and the church, he should forget about his marriage and his children.
She said this to him without mincing words.

He loved his wife and children, and he had stayed in the church and swallowed as much as he could with humility because the consequences were too dire for him to consider.
When he told his wife about the job offer, she ran off to inform the pastor
The pastor said, "No!"
His wife returned home and told him that she would have gladly travelled with him, but her place of assignment was in that church, and she wouldn't trade her divine destiny for all the riches in this world.

He accepted the job offer and filled out all the necessary documents
His wife told him he was wasting his time
It got so bad that he reported her to her parents and also got his own parents involved
His wife said he could leave, but she was not going anywhere
His wife's mother told him to go and pray
"I have never seen my daughter in such a disagreeable state before. She must be under a spell; you are her husband. Go and pray. I will also pray. This is not ordinary."

This was why the young man came to me.
He wanted me to pray with him that the scale in the eyes of his wife may fall off
I asked him if he still attended church on Sundays
He said yes
I asked him who the strongest female influence in the church was
He thought about it and mentioned a name
I said, "After service this Sunday, go and talk to this woman. Don't accuse the pastor of any wrongdoing directly, just insinuate that you suspect he is sleeping with some church members, your wife included, and you would like him to stop, or you will go public."

He did so.
That same day, the pastor, his wife, and this woman of influence visited their house
His wife couldn't contain her joy
Her idol was visiting her home for the first time in many years
The pastor's wife and the woman of influence watched her every move
As the husband, he stayed as aloof as possible.
His wife was all over the pastor
She couldn't help herself; he was God to her

The next day, the pastor called his wife and encouraged her to take up the offer to travel abroad with her husband
When she protested, the pastor said, "God told him to tell her so."
That was how the wife agreed to the move
Two months later, the family relocated to Canada, and this man was able to get his wife away from this pastor's influence.

PS: You often wonder how some people got fanatical followers despite how silly whatever they were doing is.
You see some religious figures commanding a huge followership, and you wonder why...

Human beings are one of the easiest beings to domesticate. Some of the most brilliant minds are so gullible, easy to program and manipulate by dullards in the name of spiritual leadership

There’s a popular anecdote about Joseph Stalin that goes as follows.

One day, the dictator of the Soviet Union told his closest advisors that he would show them how easy it was to control a person who had already been subjugated. He brought in a live chicken, which he then proceeded to pluck until it was naked and bleeding.

“Now, watch where the chicken goes,” Stalin said as he put it on the ground. Finally freed from its torturer’s grasp, the chicken wasted no time getting away. However, when it failed to find an exit, it readily returned to Stalin and attempted to warm itself between the dictator’s legs. Stalin then took out some grain from his pocket, which he fed to the chicken.

Some people, under the guise of religious ability, would dispossess other human beings of their reasoning ability and feed them corn in return for their loyalty.

Such people usually have a big ego and a larger-than-life personality that can easily be punctured by three things
1) Rumor
2) Reputational Destruction and
3) Innuendo

While these three things are negative and must be seriously discouraged, the threat of them is always enough to scare a man who depends on his reputation to keep his myth into doing the right thing.

-GSW-

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"You cannot paint death in white and expect to sell it to the wise." - GSW

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Keep Away From Married Women

There is nothing wrong with a man having a preference for older women as long as the older women are not married women.

There is nothing that drags a man closer to an early grave like sleeping with a married woman. Even if her husband does not love her anymore, or if he is a polygamist or an absentee husband, it does not matter

As long as a man is responsible for her, sleeping with her makes you a thief, and the punishment for stealing another man's farm produce could range from getting caught in a trap, to being fatally shot or wounded, or being cursed or afflicted

There was a Nigerian actor, a hunchback popularly called Jacob. He was very popular, and he acted with the likes of Papilolo and Aderupoko

I was six years old when he died.

He had eight wives at home, but he died of a sexual affliction while copulating with a married woman in his own house.

It was a lesson I learned early in life.

There is a very popular pastor in Nigeria whose wife started sleeping with the keyboardist in their church. It became a scandal. The woman claimed she had been sexually neglected by her husband and was just using the young man to meet a need.
Everybody prevailed on the pastor to forgive the woman.
The young man did not last a year
His death was not reported anywhere or seen as anything of consequence
Why would you destroy your destiny in the pursuit of a grave between a married woman's thighs?

I love danger, I love a fast-paced life, I love adventure. Married women are calmer. Married women are more reasonable. Married women give me peace. Married women do not make demands of me like younger women do. Married women have their lives well put together. Married women are easy to relate to. Married women do not stress their lovers.
The reason for this is very easy.
Married women are stressing their husbands, being unreasonable with their husbands, troubling their husbands, making demands of their husbands, and they are not taking it easy with their husbands; they are giving their husbands a very difficult time

All the advantages you are claiming they give you are a result of the disadvantages they give their husbands at home. The husband is funding her lifestyle while you are milking his wife for free.

Another man grooms a woman, you like this finished product, and then start sleeping with her. You take out dividends from her without investing anything in her.
Then you sit down with your friends in a bar and talk about the benefits you are getting from this access to an early grave

A wise man will keep away from a married woman. He wouldn't even consider the thought or any of her actions in a sexual manner.

A friend of mine got close to a married woman once. He had no intention of sleeping with her, but this married woman had every intention of sleeping with him.
She gave him the green light several times. She would talk to anybody with access to him about how she was the woman in his life. She patrolled his boundaries in order to keep other ladies away from him.

Eventually, she made her pitch to him boldly, and he turned her down.

Two days later, he got a call from her husband. As soon as he picked up the husband's call, the man said, "Your mother must be a very prayerful woman. Be grateful to her."

Personally, I see nothing of sexual or romantic value in a married woman. It is like embracing fire. It will end up hurting the one embracing it, no matter how warm and attractive it looked while burning by itself.

Some married women deliberately target some young and attractive men in gyms and other public places where they could exploit their sexuality in the name of doing something else, which would bring them plausible deniability when the deed is done.

"I didn't know what came over me.", "It is the devil." he neglected me emotionally, he abandoned me emotionally, "The spark had died,", "I am trying to get my groove back", "I couldn't resist him."
In some cases, they pay the young man in order to encourage him to consider a repeat performance.
Death has never been as attractive and enticing as it is when offered by a woman who truly has no authority over herself.

There is no advantage apart from the sensual to sleeping with a married woman. No matter how hard you try to paint a picture of your experience while doing it, you cannot paint death in white and expect to sell it to the wise.

Keep away from married women.

-GSW-

[Ayo Shote @omoshote]

"There are several reasons to sign a prenup, especially as a man or woman of means. If your children are born into money (trust fund babies), you must protect them by insisting they sign a prenup, too. Protect your assets" - GSW

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Insist On A Prenup

He said: Brother Gbenga, Let me tell you a story of how a Prenup preserves your life from an early grave and also protects your resources from emotional vultures fleecing you off your feelings for them.

I lodged in a hotel in 2019 somewhere in Lagos. It was a good hotel and the price was fair.
The room service attendants of the hotel, however, were very unprofessional in their conduct
They padded the bill, solicited for tips, and would beg you for money brazenly. If you refuse to tip them or give them any money based on principle, they will start giving you attitude.

If you call room service, nobody will show up. If you walk into their restaurant to make an order, you will wait a long time before you are served, and if you go to their bar for a drink, you will be the last person to be attended to.

They had a terrible and unprofessional service culture.
I decided to take it up with their management. I am a business owner too, and I could see the amount of money the owner of the hotel was pouring into it to keep its doors open. The attitude of his staff, however, would eventually force the business to close down.

I requested to see the manager in my second week at the hotel.
By this time i had documented all the evidence of the atrocities of his staff
I had also googled him to know as much as possible about him and his business
We met on a thursday and I told him all my observations with recorded audio and video evidence
I also gave him bills that didn't match the receipts given to me by those who had attended to me.

He told me he would do something about it immediately.
The next day, he sacked all the staff members involved and employed new ones.
He then instructed one of the new ones, a lady named
Jasmine is to wait on me and ensure that all my needs are met. (Nothing sexual or unprofessional, please. I know you will post on X, and that street takes things off point very easily. So I am clarifying that.)

Jasmine was like my PA while I was in Lagos for the business I came in to do, which was to scout ten teen footballers and if possible, sign them up on a contract for my football club which was in one of the Middle Eastern countries

Jasmine knew Lagos, and she was of great help in my interactions with the locals.
This was how we got talking, and she told me about her relationship with a young man named Wisdom, who was working with one of the pharmaceutical companies and their struggles to raise enough money to get married.

In all, I spent three months in Nigeria, and she worked with me for about ten weeks. I made sure she was compensated properly in foreign currency before returning to my base.
When I got to my base, I got an email from her
In the mail, she pushed for me to please help her man get a job abroad
I ignored it
I didn't want the relationship to go beyond a professional one

Two years after this, she called me out of the blue and told me she had obtained a master's degree form with UNILAG and would like me to support her with the school fees.
I didn't think twice before sending her triple the amount she requested.
She also asked if I could get her a job
She said her job at the hotel had turned toxic due to the behaviour of her new supervisor
She said she wanted to resign, and she did.

We started talking on and off.
Nothing romantic, but the discussion was stepping out of neutrality and professionalism into personal issues.
She spoke to me a lot about Wisdom, the man she was dating, and how he was always mounting pressure on her to make her own money so that they could build a life together.
Wisdom was advancing in his career, and he was given an official car and an accommodation at work
He, however, refused to marry Jasmine as long as she was not gainfully employed

Jasmine took this as a sign of a lack of love from wisdom. She broke off the relationship and focused on her studies.
When she was done with her master's, she got a job in one of the states in the Southeast.
She kept in touch

When she got to this new job in the Southeast, she started dating the manager of the company.
He was rich after a fashion within the Nigerian socioeconomic space.
He lived in a duplex, had three cars, and had some money he could spend for free
He was generous, and he paid attention to her needs
She spent most of her time in his duplex, securing her space as his wife to be
This went on for about a year until the man's wife and children arrived in Nigeria from the United States of America.

It was an unexpected twist in her story.
She had to move out of his apartment in a hurry. A lot of the staff members in their office knew about her relationship with the boss, and the news soon filtered to the boss's wife
The woman insisted she must be sacked, and the man had no option but to sack her.
She also had to change her church because the man and his family attended the same church, and she lived in constant fear of running into the woman.

So she left Enugu and returned to Lagos.
When she got to Lagos, she joined a church, became very born again in her conduct, and got a job as an executive assistant to the pastor of the church she was attending.

By this time, I had known her for about five years. She would call, text, or send me an email once in a while. sometimes when I have something to do in Nigeria, I would reach out to her, and she would get it done for me for a fee.

I got a better contract as a scout with another football club in Germany.
I needed to return to West Africa to scout out some talent in seven countries, including Nigeria.
I called Jasmine to share the good news. She asked if I wouldn't mind a video call, and I obliged.
We talked for a bit, and she asked me to take her on a tour of my hotel suite.
I obliged her
She used to be in the hotel business, and I know many hoteliers like seeing the standard of other hotels so that they could aspire for better in their line of work.

I arrived in Nigeria in June,
Jasmine was at the airport to welcome me.
Her attitude towards me was very warm, and she came with an overnight travel bag
When I told her I wanted to stay in the hotel where she used to work, she begged me not to
She said if I did so, she would not be able to stay with me
It was her queen's gambit, and I allowed her to play that hand

That was how we became lovers. She was thirty-two years old. her career had not taken off as she wanted, and her love life had crashed into oblivion
She said she was staying with her older sister's family in Lekki, Lagos, and her older sister had almost turned her into a housemaid
She said staying with me would give her some respite and restore a bit of dignity to her before her sister and her sister's husband

She was a good friend, a fantastic listener. She has a good brain in her head, and her counsel is always well considered. She also has this sixth sense about people and could easily tell you when people are being shady or forthright.
Being from Nigeria, her wealth of knowledge in this way helped me a lot with my business.

We grew very close. We toured West Africa together. We fell in love, and I proposed to marry her.
Now I came from money. My family had owned wineries and vineyards for several generations.
I have also done very well for myself in my career as a FIFA and UEFA-licensed football scout
It was only ideal that we sign a prenup

When I told her about the prenup, she said I was not in any way different from Wisdom (her former boyfriend).
I asked her why she would say so, and she said I was prioritizing money over my love for her and making her look like a gold digger.
She said she wouldn't sign a prenup
It has to be either all or nothing

I really loved Jasmine, so i told her I would travel home to have a discussion with my parents on the prenup issue
I told her she couldn't travel with me because my father would accuse me of being under her influence.
I also told her that my parents and I would most likely place a call to her during the discussion, and my father would most likely ask her some questions
I encouraged her to be candid and forthright with my father, as this could help him change his mind about the prenup

On the day we made the call, Jasmine was back with his sister at Lekki
After we had exchanged pleasantries, I introduced her to my parents
My father greeted her warmly, and so did my mother
My father then told her to take us on a tour of her sister's house and introduce us to the family on a video call
She left her room and took us from one room to another
We met her sister, the sister's husband was not at home
We also met with all the little children in the house
It was a meeting of great fun and laughter
However, throughout the call, Jasmine and her sister were conversing in their native language and English language

The call went on for almost three hours. It's all pleasant. My father asked no awkward questions. It was just talking about family history, level of education, exposure, my job, her plans, how many children she wanted to have, my father's businesses, and family tree, etc

When we were done, my father asked for the video recording of the call and sent it to a friend of his from Nigeria to help transcribe the conversation between Jasmine and her sister.

The transcription was done, and the result was very revealing.

Jasmine's sister asked her when she took the video call to her room, "If this was the rich fool who wanted to employ a wife instead of marrying one the proper way."

Jasmine replied, "Onye Iberibe amaghi n'ada nne ya bu obia," or something like that, which means "This fool does not know that he is playing with someone with a superior plan. Or This is an amateur playing against a master."

That was all my father had to see.

He insisted on a prenup.
Jasmine threw a tantrum, called me names, and accused me of being a user who really didn't love her but only wanted to turn her into a baby factory. She said my father wanted an heir for his empire, but wanted a slave to carry the heir.

We parted ways after all that drama.

I got married a year later to a 27-year-old Italian princess. We have three children, and we are happy. She signed the prenup eagerly as I would have done if she were the one with the assets to protect

It was never about fidelity or unfaithfulness. it was about judging intentions. How would a man or woman know if he or she is being loved for his or her money other than for himself or herself?
You take the money off the table.
If he or she is still consistent without the money on the table, you know you have hit the jackpot.

Thank you for bearing with the long read, sir.

PS: There are several reasons to sign a prenup, especially as a man or woman of means.
If your children are born into money (trust fund babies), you must protect them by insisting they sign a prenup, too.
There are too many vultures out there hoping to trade good looks and a bad character for years of sweat and hard work.
Protect your assets from these buccaneers!

-GSW-

[Ayo Shote @omoshote]

"Where we ought to train, we shouldn't pray! Parents must establish their children in a relationship with God (Not religion), and Spouses should establish their other halves in a relationship with God (Not religion). Everybody must know God for themselves." - GSW

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

The "Praying Wife" Deceit!

There is nothing as unscriptural as the belief held by many Christian circles that a "praying wife" and or a "praying mother" is essential for the success of the husband or the children.

American Pentecostalism had always sold certain individuals' experiences within the context of religion as the "new thing" that everybody must buy or key into in order to make it in life.
Capitalism's influence on true spirituality sold performative religious rites as the norm rather than the exception.

Intercessory prayer is valid and acceptable as a form of prayer that believers must engage in, but in true Christianity, an arrangement where the wife is forever on her knees while her husband barely knows the Lord is not acceptable as a form of worship.

An arrangement where the mother is praying fervently while the children are living a life of little or no regard to God is not the arrangement Jesus gave his life for.

Job made sacrifices for his children daily, but the devil still killed them like flies. He didn't train the children to make sacrifices for themselves and know God for themselves.

The responsibility for any relationship lies in the hands of the two people who are in a relationship and not on a third party.
Imagine that you introduce a young man to a young lady, but neither of them shows any interest, and you, as the third party had to beg, pray, force, cajole, manipulate, convince, throw tantrums, negotiate, cry, and plead on behalf of one party so that the other party can be patient and wait and bless or be warm to the party.
How do you think that kind of a relationship will fare?

Mothers who didn't raise their children properly end up having crooks for children. To compensate for this, they end up taking up religion to pray and plead on behalf of their children in the place of prayer.
Carmela Corleone, the wife of Don Vito Corleone in The Godfather, was a classic example of this.

A mother who raised her children properly would only bless them as they walk with God, and her children shall give her peace and become successful in all their endeavours.

Salvation is a personal thing, and having a relationship with God is a very personal thing. A father's faith cannot grant salvation to the son, a mother's salvation does not cover her children, and a wife's devotion does not count for her husband.

Again, A father, mother, or wife can intercede in the place of prayer for a loved one. Intercession could buy time, delay evil from befalling the individual, cause the person to be favoured to get a job, a contract, or a visa, but these are temporary fixes.

What God desires is to have a relationship with every one of us without any form of intermediary or proxy "standing in the Gap".
God does not want that GAP to exist at all.
All those standing in it are occupying an office that should not exist for that purpose.

For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son, that WHOSOEVER believe in him should not perish but have everlasting life.

Faith is a personal thing.

I have come across many men who say, "My wife is a prayer warrior; she is the one praying for me to succeed, and her prayers are effective over my destiny."

They say this when things are going well for them.

When things go sour for them in their career or business, they lash out at their wives, "Your mates are praying for their husbands, you are here pressing your phone. What is God saying? Tell me what the pastor said, pray that I get this contract, and I will buy you a car, etc."

I have seen wives who claim that it is their prayer that made their husband successful. This claim is a fallacy!

The first woman I know who made the claim was very fervent in the place of prayer. Her husband was an average person until he got an opportunity to travel to the USA.
When he got to the USA, he married another wife, and his wife in Nigeria stopped praying for him out of anger over being betrayed.
The man became richer and richer. The more the man became successful, the more this woman became bitter and resentful.
She felt God ought to stop blessing the man, but it didn't work that way, and the man was not a believer.

I see many people writing erroneously that their wives are their spiritual backbone! This is foolishness!
Nobody can be another person's spiritual backbone!

Ignorance makes people claim things that are not real as real, even though there is no scriptural backing for such.

I have seen wives who claimed that when they stopped praying for their husbands, he stopped prospering.
I have seen mothers who claimed that when they stopped praying for their children, they stopped prospering.
When I investigated the claim, it was a lie.

God did not put anybody's right to prosper in the hands of a third party. Your destiny is in your own hands!

If a wife's duty is to pray for her husband to succeed in life, then the man should marry many wives so that he can have a harem of prayer warriors lifting him up spiritually every day. Isn't that ridiculous?

Where we ought to train, we shouldn't pray! Parents must establish their children in a relationship with God (Not religion), and Spouses should establish their other halves in a relationship with God (Not religion).
Everybody must know God for themselves.

How can a man be expected to give an account of his life before God when his wife or his mother is the one who has been in charge of his spiritual well-being?

It is good to have a supportive spouse who prays with you and prays for you out of love, but this prayer is not to be taken as a substitute for the spouse having a relationship with God himself or herself.

I met a lawyer recently who was an orphan until she met this twenty-five years old man at the University of Ibadan at the age of 17.
She said she needed a mentor at the time, and he was in his final year and a member of the Christian fellowship she was attending.
He took an interest in her, and she leaned on him.

He graduated and kept in touch while she continued to study with the aid of a scholarship.
He didn't get a job after graduation and had to move back to his parents' house
She crowdfunded for law school and became successful through her hard work, grit, and relationship with God

She got a job, rented an apartment, and started building her career. This man, who started sleeping with her when she was nineteen, moved in with her.
She started feeding him and providing for him.
He told her she was his ministry
God had called him to be her personal spiritual backing, and without his prayer, she wouldn't have become as successful as she was.

This lady wrote to me asking if a born-again Christian who has a relationship with God needed God to give her such a man whose sole job was to pray for her while she makes the money and splits her earnings with him

She is very intelligent, but sometimes intelligence bows to manipulation without the right perspective.

Many Christians like her are suffering from the lies of prophets, pastors, spiritualists, marabouts, and spouses who convinced them that their relationship with God is inadequate in itself. "If not for my prayer and spiritual backing for you, you would not be this successful." This is manipulation at its best.

She was able to break free of him, and she is flying higher and higher daily in Christ today.

You have an audience of ONE
I have an audience of ONE.
My walk with God is personal
Your walk with God is personal
I have a relationship with God
You have a relationship with God

This is what true Christianity is: a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

-GSW-

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