You know the type of heartbreaks that hurt the most? The ones from the people who wanted you first. Like I was minding my business and you moved heaven and earth to get my attention only to do this to me?????
Most men don’t go to therapy…they just find a new woman who hasn’t seen their damage. Instead of confronting their past, they outrun it. They dodge responsibility, skip the deep work, and confuse a fresh start with actual healing. They bring smooth words, empty promises, and charisma…but underneath, the same unopened baggage remains. It’s not progress…it’s avoidance. And the new woman? She pours her faith, energy, and love into him…unaware she’s just another chapter in the same old story. True healing takes guts facing the hurt, admitting faults, putting in the effort. But too many men take the shortcut. Don’t be fooled by a shiny exterior…real love demands truth, not tricks. You deserve someone who grows, not just moves on.
Ask your partner how they slept, how their day was, about work, what's on their mind, why they've been quiet, why they are being sensitive, what they'd like to eat, and where they'd like to go; make it a habit. Never let them feel unseen, unheard, or ignored.
Pretending to be single while having a whole woman living with you is INSANE. Like... really think about that. She’s there.... in your space, in your life, probably cooking meals, helping you hold it all together, maybe even raising kids with you.... and you’re out here acting like she doesn’t exist? That’s not just disrespectful, it’s straight-up delusional.
I highly recommend you find yourself a clingy (healthy) lovey dovey partner who’s super excited about you. Life is too short to spend it with someone who act like showing love is a chore.
Yk what's attractive?? CLARITY. A man who doesn't leaves a room for U to guess his intentions. A man who brings consistent efforts, communicate effectively, admits when he is Wrong, prepares himself to be a husband, getting his priorities in line, no DRAMA just pure leadership!
Let's normalize telling people, 'It seems you don't have the capacity to love me in the ways I want and need, so let's not continue this, and leave it at that.
Girlies, when a MAN really WANTS you, everything flows. no communication too hard. no bare minimum effort too great. no schedule too busy to make time for you. He will do the most for you. There's a difference between a man who CALLS you princess & a man who TREATS you like one