The older I get the more I realize life really is seasonal. Nothing will last forever but when you are experiencing trying times it feels like decades.
My therapist told me:
“When a person grows up feeling unseen, they learn to love by over-giving. They pour into everyone else, hoping that, one day, someone will finally pour back into them. So they become the care taker. The fixer. The one who shows up, even when no one shows up for them.”
And the hardest part? Deep down, they're not trying to be strong. They're just waiting for someone to do for them what they've spent their whole life doing for everyone else.
Girls, please PICK THE GENTLE ONE. The kind one. The one who brings you peace. The protective one. The one who is sure of you. The one who respects you. The one who understands your silence.. The one who sees your heart without judgment. The one who holds your dreams with care.
For any woman who needs to hear this: there are caring men out there, men who will sit and listen when something bothers you, take accountability, apologize, and stay aware of how their behavior affects you. Don’t settle.