Yh, among the best skills for navigating strong friendships is being indifferent to our friends stupidity, if we check them a bit too much on something they aren't willing to give up yet, as with addictions and more, they'd give up on us instead.
Starting to suspect that a cornerstone of any long-lasting relationship is the willingness to be consistently, unreasonably charitable in your interpretations of another person.
1. You don't need a deeper voice to sound confident. Just stop rushing your words.
2. Build your shoulders. Your physique gives your clothes their shape. Even the simplest shirt will look more expensive on you.
3. Find the right barber. A lot of men think they're unattractive when they just have the wrong haircut for their head shape.
4. Slow down your movements. You'll instantly look more composed.
5. Drink more water. It's one of the cheapest things you can do to improve your appearance.
6. Record yourself speaking. You'll quickly notice the little things that make you sound less confident than you actually are.
7. Wash your bedsheets more often. It can help reduce breakouts and keep your skin healthier.
8. Wear more muted colors like black, grey, and navy blue.
9. Smelling good is part of looking good. Get yourself a body spray and a perfume.
10. Learn to say less. The more comfortable you are with silence, the more confident you appear.
Adults love to bully kids because it’s easy. And it’s easy to pass the harassment off as “I’m just a concerned adult and this child needs guidance/discipline.” Really they’re just dweebs with inferiority complexes and picking on kids make them feel better about their shtty lives
the people who have quit on their own lives will quietly recruit you into quitting on yours. not openly, never openly. through the sigh when you mention the plan, the small laugh at your optimism, the gentle reminder that things rarely work out. they're drowning and a drowning man does not lift you up, he climbs you to get one more breath. guard your reach from anyone who treats their ceiling as a law of physics.
Your environment is programming you whether you like it or not.
When you’re in Monaco, wealth is the default frequency. You don’t have to talk to anyone. You don’t have to read a book. Just being there wires your brain toward it because that’s the identity of the place.
If you’re in Nigeria and every time you look out your window, all you see is struggle, hustle just to survive, and scarcity normalized, that becomes your default frequency too. Your thoughts don’t escape what your eyes normalize.
This isn’t me talking down on Nigeria. This is me being honest about something most people won’t say out loud.
It takes an enormous amount of conscious effort to think like someone in a different environment while you’re still surrounded by yours. Most people don’t even realize that’s the battle they’re fighting every single day.
And I have genuine empathy for intelligent, talented people stuck there not because they lack drive but because their environment is working against them silently.