Mary Onyekachi

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[Mary Onyekachi @onyeka33926]

Happy Easter friends 🧡

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@QueenUjunwa1 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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@Wizarab10 Well, in my place, the brides family sponsors it. Maybe your own people do it differently, or your mum just wants the man to do what he isn't supposed to do

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@AdageorgeA Do what gives you joy and fulfilment

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@AndyjnrUmaru This oo
Or another tool closest to the crime scene

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@BlessedGirl001 The sanctity of marriage has really been ignored

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@Toribabieegirl 1 and 4

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@Munalozy Does it cause anything???

[Halimah Ahmed (Tiwal'adire) @ahmedhalimah02]

One of the things that nearly collapsed my marriage within its first five years was silent treatment and malice. At some point, my husband even proudly mentioned that he once kept malice with his sister for an entire year 😳

To me, this was strange because I came from a home where we are throwing punches at each other this minute, eating from the same plate and jump on each other’s backs the next minute like nothing happened. I genuinely thought that was how every family functioned.

As a natural overthinker, silence used to torture me badly. I would become restless and emotionally unsettled, and most times I would end up apologising just to restore peace, even when I was the one who had been wronged.

Mind you, throughout all that silence, we would still exchange Salaam every morning. I would cook his meals and he never rejected them. He would continue carrying out all his responsibilities, including pulling me into his arms every night because he knew I slept better there 🤭

It was just conversations and our normal banter that disappeared.

Until one night.

We had not properly spoken for almost two weeks and my mouth was beginning to smell to me from the silence 😭 so I woke him up and said:

Me: Divorce me.

Him: Hmm? What did you say? (clearing his eyes sharply)

Me: You heard me. Since you don’t want to talk to me, kuku divorce me and let me go back to the people who would happily talk to me endlessly.

Him: Just go back to sleep. We’ll talk about it in the morning.

Me: Got down from the bed and started packing my clothes into a box.

Him: You are serious?

Me: Oh, you think I’m joking? Just watch me.

Him: Oya come here…

That night marked the end of silence and prolonged malice in my marriage because we talked till daybreak. We addressed a lot of things honestly and established ground rules for communication, conflict resolution and problem-solving moving forward.

For days after that, all I kept hearing was:
“Don’t you ever utter that word in this house again. It is prohibited.”

My husband is still not as expressive as I am, but he has made very significant efforts since then, and honestly, that effort matters a lot.

Last last, one of the most important things in marriage is being with someone who genuinely wants to be in your life as much as you want to be in theirs.

[Mary Onyekachi @onyeka33926]

@AweniOnibata She's wicked

[unique A'wears @AdageorgeA]

If you are a man and you want to marry a submissive woman . Who is hardworking and will support your business and also stand for you...

Marry an igbo woman..

An igbo woman will bring herself down for her husband to lead... Especially a lady from a good family.. that her dad is the head of the family..

Every king knows that Igbo women are they support each family need ..

We stand beside our husband like lionesses....

We are business tycoon from the room we count money..

So those speaking down on Igbo women ... I see you ...

I'm igbo .. I won't deny who I'm because of some people.... 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

I'm too proud of my origin..

I'm not afraid of anyone..

I'm Ada...

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@kenkenlewu There are things that are not supposed to be said. That woman can actually poison her, the thought has been crossing her mind and she'll do it

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@AndyjnrUmaru That money you just kept aside

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@khanofkhans11_ Mega
Lone
Maniac
Man
Men
Leg
Gel

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@chunyella22 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hi

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@Wizarab10 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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@KelOnovo Everyone should start what they can finish

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@brain_okoli Amen oo

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@kenkenlewu Well, two wrongs can never make a right. If she wasn't comfortable with his attitude towards her, she should have left with her dignity intact instead of having an affair while still married.

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@MrMekzy_ Alcohol and smoking