People confuse the cruelty that had the power to hurt them with real strength and then try emulating that same energy in hopes of being the victor in the next scenario.
I really wish that certain words just stayed in the psychiatry books where they belong because no, not everyone you dislike is a narcissist. Not everything is gaslighting. Attachment styles are not a personality trait. Trauma bond does not mean “bonding over shared trauma”.
It really is a bunch of NPC characters in real life. Same scripts. Same talking points. No original thoughts. We really living in a matrix and most people don’t even know they’re programmed.