Is it masculine to run from a storm? Is it masculine to allow a man to insult you, call your wife ugly, and call your father a criminal...and then kiss his ass?
Things the recovery industry will not tell you:
1. The drug worked. That is why people use it. Not weakness. Not moral failure.
A neurological event so complete and persuasive that any honest account of addiction has to start there.
The problem is not that the drug fails. The problem is that what it does is unrepeatable, and you will burn your entire life to the ground trying to get back to a place that no longer exists.
2. Shame is not guilt. Guilt says I did something bad. Shame says I am something bad. Guilt is appropriate. Shame is a cell with no windows. Most people use the words interchangeably. That mistake is lethal.
3. You cannot shame someone who has already named the thing you are holding over them. Say it first. Say it in plain light. The weapon drops.
4. Guilt can coexist with self-respect. Shame cannot. You can hold the damage and the dignity at the same time. I know because I live there.
5. Radical honesty does not give you back who you were. It hands you the clean slate of who you always wanted to be. The mask comes off. The cartoon other people drew of you stays on the page.
6. Nobody gets clean on a winning streak.
7. You have to be almost self-delusional in your forgiveness of yourself. (Go watch Chase Hughes)
8. The greatest sin was not the chaos. It was the absence. Being unavailable to the people who needed you.
9. Sustainable recovery starts with one thing: honesty with yourself. If you love an addict and want to help, that is the only door in.
10. I am only an expert on my recovery. Nobody is an expert on anyone else’s.
“They didn’t give me anything. And they don’t give away stars in my service. You got to earn them," Gen. Daniel "Chappie" James, Jr.
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by @ClintSmithIII
It’s an open secret throughout the Pentagon that survivability often depends on making as little noise as possible and avoiding drawing the attention of Hegseth and his office, multiple officials said.
“Everything we did on a daily basis, we were calculating, ‘Is this going to keep the boss employed, or is this going to get him fired?’” a Pentagon official told CNN. “Every single day, every decision that we made, that was a planning factor. … It’s very unusual for that to be considered so heavily.”
https://t.co/8scA1rAERd
New: On April 1, Army Chief of Staff Gen. Randy George requested an in-person meeting with Defense Secretary Pete Hegseth — an effort to calm months of tension between Hegseth and senior Army leaders, three officials said.
The meeting never came. The next day, he was fired in the middle of a meeting with Army staff.
“The staff proceeded to, one by one, either go and give him a handshake or a hug,” a Pentagon official recalled. By the next morning, George’s office had been emptied.
Inside Hegseth’s Pentagon, where distrust and suspicions of loyalty are rampant
https://t.co/8scA1rAERd
“This son of a bitch is throwing a two-hit shutout, he’s shakin’ me off. You believe that shit? Charlie, here comes the deuce. And when you speak of me, speak well.”
I know we've been having fun... but on a serious note...
To be clear... I do come in peace... and want to be an active participant in the "make violence of action great again" movement
Respectfully and humbly I'm just asking that @secwar@SecArmy release @infantrydort to participate in the challenge he has made to the world...
To be clear...
This LTC has called me a Marxist/leftist and a coward...
despite serving my country honorably and being a registered principled conservative republican that lives in Sampson County NC...
A guy whose family has fought in every single war this country has fought in..
It was the honor of my life to serve in the 82nd ABN Division... (i even got married in jump boots so my wife understood exactly what she was getting into)
Regrettably... one of my biggest heartbreaks was being medically retired 2 years ago...
And yes, while he has attacked dozens of people I respect... this isn't about that..
It's a matter of honor at this point..
I think we all can agree that accountability matters...
and honestly, I think it would be great to show the world exactly how serious the DOW takes winning... how much it believes in violence of action.. how much believes in lethality and merit...
Therefore, I respectfully request that you just give him what he's asking for.... let the man design his challenge and I volunteer as tribute lol...
I understand that there will be those that say I'm not qualified to ask y'all to fulfill this request... if there's questions about my credentials to participate in such a challenge....
I would humbly direct you to this fine officer...