If you’re not rich and you’ve never had the opportunity to sit with the rich, don’t let anybody whine you. Men are simple beings. Regardless of financial worth, we talk about the same things - football, women, politics, life, life as a man.
There is nothing supernatural about the conversation. Even if they talk about business, na broke you broke, you’re not stupid.
Don’t let anybody whine you because they are trying to gatekeep everything with classism.
An underrated trait that isn’t talked about enough is stubbornness.
Be very stubborn. Be very very stubborn about the things you want out of this life thing we’re doing here.
Refuse to be beat down. Refuse it. Refuse to lose your spark.
Be a mad man. Nobody cares.
Let people say you’re cringe. They’ll adjust later.
Look stupid. Look foolish. Look like a novice.
No problem.
Most men live in quiet desperation. They’re tiptoeing through life.
Don’t let that be your lot.
Bye.
NEW GRADUATES:
10 TIPS to jumpstart you:
1. Don't rush to enroll for a Masters: First test the field then you'll know what Post Graduate qualification is more suitable for the job market.
2. Relocate:
Re-start life away from where you grew up from. You have limited chances at success staying in a place where you grew up from. Prejudice is high.
3. Be a fixer:
There's magic in being a new-kid-on-the-block who can fix things. If you can fix something, your value will grow. Your network will grow day by day.
4. The people you call friends from University days cannot give you a positive recommendation in your absence. They’re in silent competition with you. They want you to do well as long as you’re not better than them.
5. Find a mentor:
Find someone with more exposure. Spend less time with peers at the same level of livelihood as you; their silent competition will choke your growth.
6. Invest in yourself:
Invest in your personal brand. Consistent self-improvement. Value is the measure of your usefulness. Create value so that calls come in seeking your intervention to go fix them. Attract money.
7. Skills:
Both the hard and soft skills. There’s no Degree that bestows upon you the soft skills. Lasting money flows to those who solve peoples problems. Soft skills are people-skills. Mastering them will accelerate your career such as Adaptability, Dependability, Creativity.
8. Self-identity:
Make sure you're known for doing something unique. Don’t get involved in what everyone is doing. Stay true to yourself. Live your life according to you believe in. What other people think of you is none of your business.
9. Embrace individuality:
Accept and celebrate your unique self. Overcome the burden of social expectations. Lifestyle is not something given, but something chosen. Be authentically You.
10. Pray:
There's God. You are going to fight more spiritual battles than physical ones.
“The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.” - Alan Watts
We often long for what we do not have, believing it holds the key to our happiness. But trust me … once it is in your hands, time gently reveals that it was never the treasure you imagined. True joy is beyond price. So as you chase what you think will complete you, do not forget to savor the quiet beauty of the journey between now and then