You want a submissive wife. Ok... Fine.
Then the plumber says the foundation has a problem.
You freeze.
The school calls about the children. She handles it.
The rent increases. She makes the plan.
Your family creates drama. She sets the boundary.
Something breaks in the house. She figures it out.
But every evening, you remind everybody that you are βthe head.β
My brother, leadership no be ceremonial title ohhh.
If your wife has to carry the thinking, planning, emotional regulation, household logistics and crisis management while you carry only authority, you are not leading.
You are occupying a position.
Later you'll be saying she's not opening her legs for you. Oooooook.
You maintain a secret apartment across town for a university student.
You fund her tuition, buy her expensive hair, and pay her rent.
Meanwhile, your actual wife is driving a car with a broken transmission and wearing 3 year-old clothes.
When the money stops, the distraction will immediately replace you. You think you are a boss... lol... you are a compromised asset.
Stop starving the woman who built with you to impress a girl who only respects your wallet.
Terminate the arrangement.