This discourse used to be centered around poorly-written character arcs with a lack of a satisfying conclusion. Now it's shifted to, "the author didn't make this happen the way I want it to". People are unable to understand the context for what type of story is being told.
You see this come up anytime a romance anime aimed at women comes out where the guy has some sort of problematic aspect to him. People immediately start panicking that it's "sending a bad message to women" as if they're somehow too stupid to understand it's a work of fiction.
There's an interesting dichotomy in how fantasy for men and women are discussed. Fantasies for men are dismissed as wish fulfillment, whereas fantasies for women are criticized for setting a dangerous standard. The underlying idea being women can't separate fiction from reality.
I thought about this and realized I believe people who care about you can mistreat you. For me I want to normalize saying "this treatment is unacceptable regardless of how someone feels about me" and move on from there