@Vanish35673639@mortikslove Naaa I don't think everywhere I look it says solo came first
Let's just enjoy both as it is
There are many anime that initially looks d same but has a twist to it
repetition rewires your brain more than motivation ever will. not in some fake “just think positive and the universe will fix your life” way. i mean in a very real biological way. your brain is constantly adapting to whatever you repeatedly think, feel, and do. most people don’t realize this because they assume their personality is fixed. they think their habits, mindset, confidence, anxiety, even the way they see the world is just “who they are.” but a huge part of it is actually conditioning. your brain is always listening to what you repeat.
most people spend their entire day reinforcing stress without even noticing it. they wake up and immediately check their phone. compare themselves to strangers online. replay old mistakes. overthink conversations. expect bad outcomes before anything even happens. and because the brain learns through repetition, those thoughts slowly become its default setting. the brain starts scanning the world for more proof that those fears are true. more problems. more reasons to doubt yourself. more evidence that life is against you.
that’s the scary part about neuroplasticity. your brain does not really care whether the pattern is helping you or hurting you. it doesn’t automatically separate good patterns from bad ones. it just adapts to what you consistently repeat. repeat stress and your brain becomes better at felling anxious, repeat self doubt and insecurity starts feeling natural, repeat distraction and your attention span weakens. whatever you feed your mind daily becomes stronger.
but the opposite is true too.
when you start focusing on growth, gratitude, discipline, your brain slowly begins reshaping itself around those things too. and no, it doesn’t happen overnight. at first it feels unnatural because your old patterns are still stronger. but over time your brain starts changing what it notices automatically. you begin seeing opportunities you would’ve ignored before. small wins start feeling bigger. challenges stop feeling like proof that you’re failing and start feeling like part of the process.
one of the most underrated things you can do is deliberately reinforce good experiences. when something good happens, pause for a second and actually feel it. your brain remembers what carries emotional weight. that’s why negative experiences stick so easily. but if you consciously hold onto positive moments too, your brain starts building stronger pathways around them.
your mind becomes whatever it practices most. so be careful what you keep giving your attention to cause whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right
Here is what helped me, which you can do too.
Also, I know some of these things professionally because I majored in broadcast journalism and have temporary experience at FRCN and Cool FM.
1. Reading. Not only self-help books, but also fiction. They help you build the emotional and empathic IQ that helps you connect with your audience seamlessly. Suppose you can, please read out loud, too. It trains your mouth muscles and enhances your speaking ability. Just like lip drill helps your singing.
2. Pick a topic, open your phone recorder and Yap about it. When you are done, listen. Do this daily. I still do it to date.
PS: In 2019, I finally summoned the courage to post one of my yaps on Anchor. This launched me into my podcasting era.
3. Listen to podcasts and preachings from very sound ministers. I listen to Deelaw’s podcast, Mel Robbins ' podcast, Apostle Joshua Selman’s teachings, Diary of Naija Girl, and Huberman Labs.
4. Don’t ever script whatever you want to talk about before you speak. I know a lot of people would not believe this, but scripting does not help as much as you think. Instead, build your own speaking framework, or make a list of the subtopics and the logical order in which you want to talk about them.
5. Brevity & Clarity. When you want to start communicating better, you don’t want to use heavy words or jargon. Opt for the most basic words to communicate while Keeping It Simple and Short (KISS).
6. Practice credible communication and storytelling. It keeps people glued till the end.
7. The hardest of them all? Cadence and articulating your thoughts. Reading and journaling actually help you articulate better, but cadence, you’ll learn by listening to others who speak so well consistently.
8. Stop overreaching into your brain when you’re speaking. This is where your ‘ummmm’ and other filler words come from. You’ll have to trust your brain and your lips to sync so much and do the job. This would also make you stop judging yourself when speaking.
9. Choose to send voice notes instead of texting so you have the right context to speak more.
If it's perfect for you, be worried because you might just head over to your complacent era. So, always practice.
I hope this helps.
The brain learns from endings. When you quit a task with a scroll, your brain records escape as the reward. When you quit with a completed rep, a closed loop, or a clean stopping point, your brain records completion as safety. How you end the work teaches your mind what to crave next.
A lot of people find it hard to access certain emotional states when they want to, and they don’t realize that it’s not about forcing anything, it’s more about allowing yourself to re-enter something that already exists in your memory and experience.
Every person already has states like happiness, euphoria, confidence, excitement, and gratitude inside their lived experience, you just have to let yourself step back into them, and one of the fastest ways to do that is through the method of visualization.
Pick the emotional state you want to feel, like confidence, gratitude, or excitement, and go back in memory to a time where it was real and strong. Not as a thought about the past, but as if you are entering it again directly.
See it through your own eyes at that exact moment, hear what you heard, feel your body posture, your surroundings, and your internal state as it was. Make the memory as vivid and sensory as possible, as if it is happening right now.
The key is not to analyze the memory, but to fully re-enter it, letting your mind and body behave as if that version of you is active again in the present moment.
If you do this for around 10 minutes a day, over time it becomes easier to access these emotional states on demand, not as a result of creating them, but through reactivation of something that already exists in your experience.
Jordan Peterson on how to easily overcome social anxiety:
1. Social anxiety is not shyness. When you walk into a social situation, your brain registers it as a dominance hierarchy that is judging you. A negative judgment means low status. Low status interferes with everything your biology cares about. You are not being irrational. You are being evaluated by something that feels like nature itself, and your nervous system knows it.
2. Telling an anxious person to stop thinking about themselves does not work. You cannot tell someone to stop thinking about something. They get caught in the loop. Stop thinking about a white elephant. white elephant. white elephant. The instruction makes it worse. The only way out is to give the brain something else to do.
3. The actual solution is to look at other people. not glance. Genuinely look. Watch their face. Track what they are thinking. The moment you focus outward, your automatic social mechanisms engage, and the awkwardness dissolves on its own. You cannot be socially calibrated and self-focused at the same time. Attention can only go in one direction.
4. When speaking to a group, never try to address the group. It does not exist as a thing you can talk to. Find one person, look at them directly, and talk to that person. They will reflect the entire room back to you because everyone is entrained to the same social signal. If you can talk to one person, you can talk to anyone.
5. The eye at the top of the pyramid, the thing the Egyptians worshipped as Horus, is attention itself. What you pay attention to determines everything. The most important thing to look at is whatever your instincts flag as slightly wrong or off. That is where the real information is. Your enemies are useful for the same reason. They will tell you things about yourself that nobody else will, and occasionally one of those things will be accurate.
keep doing things for you. just for you. for your own recognition. for your own approval. for your own joy. keep doing things that spark confidence and self understanding. keep experiencing yourself.
if you're scared to do something but think about it often, it's probably the exact thing you need to do to unlock the next chapter in your life. embrace the fear, welcome the change, and go after what you want with full force
CONFIDENCEMAXXING
Be egoistical. You are the priority. Straight posture. Don’t look around unnecessarily. Sculpt your body. Dress well. Focus on your mission. Become a mystery to others. Keep most things to yourself. Enter the room as if everyone were waiting for you. Make yourself comfortable. Speak slowly. Fear nothing. Don’t fake emotions. Make others want to copy your persona.
You can achieve anything you want if you act as you have already got it.
Confident people are not born that way.
It becomes their second nature.