Don't let straight people tell you not to "make being gay your personality." Straight people base their entire lives around dating, flings and marriage.
They consistently allow gender and sexuality to influence their friendships & personal relationships.
Kinda crazy seeing young women vs older women thing on twitter. Rihanna looked like this too. She has children and at a different point in her life. You one day will too, I hope people are kind to you as your body changes and you're older.