Back in the US, I used to date this lady. We were both in our 20s and I really liked her.
I was thinking she would be the one.
We never really had any major fights.
After gym I would sometimes go by her. Instead of going back to my apartment.
If she got back late from work, I would grab us food on the way, otherwise she would cook dinner and wait for me so we eat dinner together.
On this fateful day, she told me not to grab food that she was cooking for us.
After gym, I went to her place and this lady had eaten, wash her dishes and left my food in the microwave and went to watch TV.
I came in and she wasn't enthusiastic to see me, she just told me my dinner was in the microwave.
I asked why she didn't set it up on the dining table and she shrugged. I asked her if she had eaten, she said yes and continued watching TV.
I went to her sat by her and asked her what the problem was.
This lady started with how I didn't check up on her throughout the day, after she told me she was making us something special.
Before I could explain that I had a very busy and stressful day and was looking forward to dinner to unwind and enjoy a happy moment with my woman, she went on a tangent.
Started listing all the things she claimed I had done that she was clearly bottling up. The one I did the previous week. The one I did the previous month, the one I did 3 months ago.
By the time she was done, I got up, grabbed my car keys, gave her a peck on her forehead and headed home.
The relationship went downhill from that point because it was at that moment I knew she was vindictive.
Anyway, I say this to say that people should learn to address issues as they come. Do not let it pile up because when you then unleash it, it becomes a Tsunami and cause more damage than was intended.
This thing is really sad, and it’s a global phenomenon.
In 2009, Tyler Perry was tired of all the billings from his extended family members.
He stopped giving money to able-bodied family members and told all of them frankly to go find a job and stop depending on him.
He even once gave one of his aunts a job after she repeatedly asked for money. He later fired her because she frequently called in sick and failed to show up to work.
Do what’s within your capacity to support family members if you can, but never let anyone gaslight you or manipulate you to the extent of developing HBP.
Shield yourself from such, and focus on YOU and your immediate family.
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Lamb's first job in America: Lowe's night shift, $15 an hour. He cried in the bathroom.
Years later he interviewed the CMO of Lowe's in Cannes.
What was your first job abroad, and what did it pay?
@Lamboginny
This particular issue is a very big problem! There are extortionists in every sector of economy. This accounts for some of the reasons why some trotros also operate the way they operate sometimes.
This is facts. I’d add emotional regulation & consideration.
For example, my parents speak each day when they’re on the way home but DO NOT call each other in the day except for emergencies.
With socials/text, I find many are constantly “communicating” w/o consideration.
Honoured to be back at my Alma Mater, University of Saskatchewan, Canada to walk the stage one more time at the 2026 Fall Convocation Ceremony.
Officially a three-time Usask Graduate.
Olu Femiloye, PhD
✅ Doctoral Research Fellow, Forensic Behavioural Science and Justice, CBSJ, Canada
✅ Doctor of Philosophy, University of Saskatchewan, Canada
✅ Master of Arts, University of Saskatchewan, Canada
✅ Graduate Certificate, Public Service & Policy, Conestoga Institute, Canada
✅ Graduate Diploma, Critical Thinking & Professional Skills, Gwenna Moss Centre, Canada
✅ Bachelor of Science (Double Honours), Obafemi Awolowo University, Nigeria.
Thank You Lord For Keeping Things Soft And Running Smoothly ✨
A musical genius - Did you know Nana Fynn wrote 'Odo Handkerchief' in the shower 🚿?
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The concept of ‘my money is my money and your money is our money’ is a zero-sum game if you live abroad. It’s a gateway to unnecessary struggle & poverty. You can have a better quality of life, with kids in better schools, better houses and better cars, if everyone pitches in.
Canada’s Real-Time Rail (RTR) is a new national payment infrastructure owned and operated by Payments Canada. It allows participating financial institutions, credit unions, and payment service providers to send and receive account-to-account payments that clear and settle in seconds, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
It launched on November 9, 2026.
How it differs from Interac e-Transfer
Many people confuse the two, but they are not the same:
•Interac e-Transfer is a consumer-facing service. You send money using someone’s email address or phone number. It feels fast for users, but historically the funds did not fully clear and settle between banks in true real time.
•Real-Time Rail is the underlying national “rail” (infrastructure). It handles the actual exchange, clearing, and settlement of the money in real time between financial institutions.
e-Transfer is expected to begin migrating its clearing and settlement onto the RTR in 2027. The familiar e-Transfer experience will largely remain, but it will eventually ride on the new infrastructure.
Key features
•True real-time settlement: Funds are available to the recipient almost immediately, and payments are generally final and irrevocable once settled.
•Always on: Works evenings, weekends, and holidays with no cut-off times.
•Data-rich payments: Uses the ISO 20022 messaging standard, so more structured information (like invoice numbers) can travel with the payment.
•Built-in fraud tools: Includes centralized fraud services (such as confirmation of payee and real-time risk scoring) from day one. Canada is the first G7 country to launch a real-time system with mandatory centralized fraud controls.
•Higher limits: System limit starts at $100,000 (financial institutions can set lower customer limits).
Current status and rollout
The system is live, but access is phased. Some smaller institutions and fintechs are already connected; the major banks are coming online later. The goal is for over 90% of Canadian bank accounts to have access by the third quarter of 2027.
In short, the Real-Time Rail is the modern backbone that makes instant, final, data-rich payments possible across Canada. It is not a new app or a replacement for e-Transfer—it is the national infrastructure underneath (and eventually supporting) faster money movement.
On Monthly Allowance.
I'm not even against it. You would know if you've seen my tweet from the past. It is how you people frame it and talk about it, that is disgusting. There is no aspect of love that is gendered because love is not a masculine responsibility, it is a lover's duty. Whether you're a man or woman is frankly, irrelevant.
If your partner loses their job and you're earning N200k. You could decide to give them N50k monthly till they get back on their feet. You have other responsibilities but they have become primary.
If you earn a lot more than your partner. N4m to N250k. You could decide to put them on N250k or whatever, monthly, to supplement their income due to the extant economic reality. Once you see your money as "our money" love is easy. You want to see your partner happy and in a good place.
Understand that while doing either of these, you're still both invested in each other and building a home together in love and togetherness. The problem with the "monthly allowance discourse on the TL" is that it revolves around vagina entitlement. You think you deserve it just because you're a woman or because you think you 'give him sex.' Some of you are in same tax bracket as your man or even earn higher and still feel entitled to monthly allowance. Are you an armed robber?
You cannot claim to love anyone and put them in dis-ease. How are you comfortable collecting monthly allowance from someone that earns same as you while carrying more responsibilities than you? You don't love them. The first principle of love is kindness. You must put your partner's best interest upfront.
Having said this, I totally understand people who are against it because it could lead to entitlement. Look at you people that haven't even started collecting it, and you feel very entitled to it. Interestingly, same you that claim you deserve it, have sworn you cannot do it for your man. Are you not a witch? It is gross hypocrisy to demand love you cannot give. Love is for lovers. You only deserve the love you give.
Many of you don't deserve shit. You tweet shit for clout and validation, and to esteem yourself highly in the eyes of potential mates. But when vagina is your only premise for deserving an allowance, you make it obvious to the gallery that you're nothing more than a hors d'oeuvre to the vagina hunters.