@highcalpal I had the same experience until I met my bf’s frat brothers. Once I realized how dumb all men are I got a shit ton of confidence with talking to men. Now I mostly play video games with het men.
So many encouragers are actually fatphobic. They think fat people are disgusting and they think of the act of gaining as a form of masochism. It’s like they get off on the idea of #gaining as a form of “destroying” one’s body.