15 Hard Truths Every Young Person Should Know:
1. Comfort is the enemy of progress. If nothing in your life is making you uncomfortable, you've likely stopped growing.
2. Failure is not the opposite of success. It is part of the path to it.
No one is coming to save you. The life you want is built by your own hands.
3. Discipline will take you further than motivation ever will.
Motivation fades; habits remain.
4. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Choose wisely.
5. Reading atleast one book a month will put you ahead of most people in ten years.
6. Not every battle deserves your energy. Learn to ignore some things.
7. Silence is not weakness. It is sometimes the most powerful response.
8. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Rest is not laziness. By all means, create time for rest.
9. Forgiveness is not for them. It is for you. Learn to forgive yourself.
10. Not everyone who smiles at you is for you. Pay attention to patterns, not performances.
11. You will outgrow people, and that is okay. Growth most times requires distance.
12. Communicate or suffer the consequences of assumptions.
13. Time is the one resource you cannot earn back. Spend it like it matters.
14. Financial ignorance is expensive. Learn money before money teaches you a hard lesson.
15. Your twenties feel slow but move fast. Start before you feel ready.
@jon_d_doe This is not true. I think he misinterpreted his message. However, in Islam, if the husband is away for that long (I think 9-12 months), the wife wouldn't be held accountable even if she cheats. The blame will entirely be on the man.
Regina Daniels, dear, you left a promising relationship with you know who and monkey branched because "crying in a Limo" was something you never believed you could achieve with him.
I am very much older than you but that relationship was inspiring to a lot of us.
You broke, not just his heart, but the heart of a lot of boys and men who believed in the process of wealth accumulation.
It was even more devastating seeing the backing of older women, because younger women have always been greedy but with the backing of older women, it was a different kind of betrayal.
They supported your decision and resorted to telling every man to go and "hustle." Boys saw their fathers build wealth with their mothers and knew that such kind of wealth had the capacity to stand the test of time.
Boys saw their fathers honour and respect their mothers. Only for those mothers to back the decision of a girl, they never knew, to marry an older man with 5 wives.
Regina Daniel's marriage, as insignificant as it might seem, laid a foundation that has altered the perception of a lot of boys and men when it pertains to marriage and women.
No man who ever marries his woman, as a self-made, would value her opinion or person. Men have realized that what she loves aren't them but the life that they provide for her and would gift it to her but will treat her like the LESS that she is.
Funny enough, the daughters of a rich or wealthy man would not be excluded from this horrific experience. At best, they end up as TROPHY wives, the kind they take with them to certain social events and heads home afterwards, while he go be with his many side women.
"In Ned's house, I am treated like nothing but I am a queen in mine."
The above statement is purely born out of the greed infused in the psyche of a solipsistic woman, your mother.
Ned's wives all didn't build with him and it is likely that the reason he married more wives, after the first one, was either because it's a cultural thing or the first one betrayed him and as such, because of her years of sacrifice, he honoured her by sticking with her, still, but emotionally detaching from her.
They treat you like a "Queen" not because you are, you are not, but because you are their money bag. You are treated the same way the average man is treated in his home— loved on the conditions of his utility. You are not VALUED and would never know what being VALUED feels like being born by your kind of mother.
Ned and his household would treat you like LESS because that is what you will always be to them.
Your mother was a NOBODY. You were a NOBODY. So, literally, you are LESS.
But you could have been something, even if that thing didn't bring you ROLL ROYCE to "cry in..." That thing is being VALUED. By those who would go to war for you, even in your nothingness.
I am certain that your father, who kicked against this union ab initio, would be waiting for you to reach out to him. If only that naive pride of a mindless girl who is a mere puppet for her mother's amusement, would let you do the right thing.
If Ned treats you like NOTHING it is an indicator that you have no backing. Whenever a woman is THREATENED or INSULTED that she has no backing.
Do you know who stands up for her? HER FATHER!!!
Isn't it time you go ask that man for forgiveness, if he is still alive, and experience what masculine power feels like?
I know that nobody, not even Elon Musk, would treat any child of mine like nothing.
Actions and consequences!
Learn or learn the hard way
Our society bears the burden of parental negligence that is far from hyperbole. A significant portion of our youth has been compromised by materialistic values and casual intimacy, driving them toward constant escapism rather than confronting reality.
These young people gravitate en masse toward gatherings that celebrate sensuality, explicit discourse, and immodesty, a reflection of their profound identity crisis. They represent our nation's tomorrow, compelling us to acknowledge the troubling direction already taking shape.
The void in proper guidance has left them without moral anchors, creating a generation seeking validation through fleeting pleasures rather than meaningful purpose. Their collective disorientation signals a broader societal failure to transmit essential values and provide authentic models of fulfillment beyond superficial gratification. 🐝