Wow! Tom Brady may have just delivered the greatest quote I’ve ever heard.
“To be successful at anything, the truth is you don’t have to be special. You just have to be what most people aren’t: consistent, determined and willing to work for it.”
The Cost of Leadership
You will have to make tough decisions that negatively affect people you care about.
You will be disliked despite your best attempts to do the best for the most.
You will be misunderstood & won’t always have the opportunity to defend yourself.
-K. Smart
Being a Head Coach is HARD Work.
I have talked to MANY coaches over my long career.
Here are 9 Things Coaches Want Parents to Understand.
1: We CARE about your Child
Even if your child doesn’t get much varsity playing time, we care about them. Nothing is ever personal. We love your child. Everyone has a Role. They are all different. But they are all important. Help us celebrate their role.
2: TIME
There are only two people who understand the time commitment of a coach. The Coach and their Spouse. We are always “on,” constantly thinking about our team. We sacrifice our Family time to be with your child. We don’t need a pat on the back. Just respect this fact.
3: We LOVE this job.
But it is a hard job. Please don’t steal our Joy. Our Passion. Our Commitment. We are losing too many coaches. Help Support us.
4: Coaches want to WIN more than you do.
We are very competitive. We put our heart and soul into this job. We are not perfect. Either are you. No one is. Strategy or X’s and O’s matter much less than you think. We are at practice every day. Trust what we see and do.
5: Everything is EARNED.
You get what you earn. Don’t blame the coach. Encourage your child to be committed. It is your child’s job to get in the weight room, shoot in the driveway, go to the gym or field, etc. Encourage them to do this. You get what you earn.
6: Trust the PROCESS
Team Sports are the ultimate lab setting for life. There will be bumps in the road. It is guaranteed. It is part of the process. Accept this fact. Trust the Process. The life lessons learned will last a lifetime.
7: Winning is HARD
Other teams want to win too. Other teams put time in too. Other teams compete too. The season is a grind, and the process is more important than the prize. Learning how to win…and how to lose…is an important part of this process.
8: Your child GETS it.
Your child understands. They are at every practice. They know their strengths. They know their weaknesses. They know their role. Don’t feed their youthful insecurities by questioning the coach. This will hurt their experience and the team.
9: Finally, and Most Importantly, this is your child’s experience, not yours.
This is important. Let them enjoy the experience with your support. Don’t judge them. Don’t be critical. Just be there. Tell them you LOVE watching them play. Be a fan of the TEAM.
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Bill Donovan:
Players think they get taken out because they missed a shot or turn it over.
More often than not, players get taken out when that missed shot or turn over leads to:
•bad energy
•not sprinting back
•rotating incorrectly defensively
Keto works.
Until you want pizza.
Fasting works.
Until you want breakfast.
Vegan works.
Until you can't get an erection.
Carnivore works.
Until you find yourself eating animal testicles.
Weight Watchers works.
Until you realize your body runs on calories not points.
CrossFit works.
Until you dislocate a shoulder.
Cardio works.
Until you plateau and don’t have time to do more.
Bootcamps work.
Until you need personalized attention.
HIIT works.
Until you roll an ankle.
Fat burner pills work.
Until you are tired of spending hundreds a month on supplements.
75 Hard works.
Until you run out of motivation.
Ozempic works.
Until you damage your Thyroid function.
Want to sustain a healthy body weight, good health and high energy for the rest of your life?
- Eat a diet that's high in protein and made up of whole foods 80% of the time.
- Lift weights in a controlled manner 2-5x per week and get lots of steps.
- Sleep well, get sun and hydrate often.
This is all you need, the rest is fluff.
Why is Caitlin Clark’s trash talking different than Angel Reese? It’s really not this difficult.
Clark’s was usually in the heat of competition and part of the natural flow of the game. They were subtle, if you blinked you missed it. Reese was end of game, game well in hand by double digits and followed Clark around the court for 20-30 seconds. It was way over the top - it was way too much of a “me” moment and trying way too hard and not in the natural flow of competing.
This is no different from MLB. A glance at a player you strikeout. A brief sword gesture walking off the field. A bat flip while jogging to 1B. It gets different when you’re up 8 runs in the 9th, strike a guy out and follow him back to his dugout to sword him. Or a monster bat flip and a pose at home plate up 6 runs in the 9th.
Reggie Miller’s choke signal to the Knicks was cold/awesome in the heat of the moment. Joe Burrow put a ring on it was walking back to his sideline.
There is a style to talking ish. And Angel Reese was a cheese ball and blew it. Drop a 3 ball on Clark to get the go ahead basket and drop it back on her. Swat her shot into the 3rd row and wag your finger. Don’t follow her around the court for 20 seconds.