The highest form of love is consideration. When someone thinks about how things would make you feel. Pays attention to detail. Holds you in regard when making decisions that could affect you. In any bond, how much they care about you can be found in how much they consider you.
I don't think I'm set up to endure in an unhappy marriage or relationship. Some of our parents/grandparents thought otherwise and that's ok. Life is too short for you to be unhappy in a relationship. There are no medals or trophies passed out for enduring misery
3. How they deal with conflict is important.
Repair after conflict is the foundation of healthy relationships. Learn to manage conflict as team players through practice.