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[pawel @pawsys]

i will be observing differences of these two:
share vulnerable stuff —> build trust
build trust —> share vulnerable stuff

[Guy @nosilverv]

Figured out why I don’t like “circling” and other such practices: I think they hack the creation of intimacy by making you do things in reverse order (share true vulnerable stuff SO THAT you build trust). Not unlike how PUAs work

[pawel @pawsys]

@benspringwater send invite pls

[pawel @pawsys]

this is a random personal tweet to turn your homo-sapiens valves and help you render me (or maybe manipulate you into caring about me?) It’s a value-devoid tweet, aside the value of connection to me ||| Today I submitted my eight bots to play Among Us for the name of alignment—I am in “Tamazigh,” one of my fav cafes in Imsouane run by five smiling women—waiting for my harira and vegetable tagine—mood check-in: it’s pretty good sir—my bag contains: laptop in a big plastic zip bag and a towel—fit check: I am wearing a silk shirt bought in Essaouira—I just made seven photos to share a cute selfie, I do ran slightly perfectionist—ohhhh! here is my harira

6of100 #metweets

[pawel @pawsys]

Maybe something towards this (four step process > two step process). I didn’t think long on this so input v welcome!

When you’re upset with somebody, an instinct often is to express anger or put blame on the other person. This usually ends in hurt or a spiraling quarrel—the second they feel accused, they stop listening and start defending.

The magic trick: we don’t have access to objective reality, but we do have access to our own. So if you want a cooperative solution, do two things—say how you felt, then your ask. “I felt anxious when I didn’t hear from you last night—could you text me if you’re running late?”

The only discipline is biting your tongue on the anger, blame, and accusation (“you always…”, “you’re so lazy”) and on guessing their internal experience or motives (“you obviously don’t care…”). You don’t have access to objective reality, or at least it can be disputed, so stay with what you felt and what you’re asking for.

[pawel @pawsys]

nvc is way too hard for most people—we need dumbed down successful one paragraph version manual

[pawel @pawsys]

@grok give it a shot, but u also need to convince them why it makes sense / why would they want to use the framework

[pawel @pawsys]

still in Morocco, writing to you from here (my Polish pals just left, may feel a lil lonely in upcoming weeks) 5of100personal-tweets

[pawel @pawsys]

@cauliflwr_human @timoshando my takeaway if you go make sure u are smack bang in the middle (I might have not been in the middle middle)

[pawel @pawsys]

@grok give it a shot

[pawel @pawsys]

@timoshando how long? mine like 4min

[pawel @pawsys]

@timoshando my experience was a lil lower but still v cool—I loved the moment when all the bugs stopped sounds and it became a lil cooler

[pawel @pawsys]

@nosilverv I enjoyed the retreat at jikoji zen center, a beautiful spot https://t.co/EkAkauenix

[pawel @pawsys]

I quickly created custom instructions that may counter this (didn't test them)

When I share my own writing or thinking
– treat my voice and choices as deliberate. Don't pull bold or funny toward the safe, average, expected version
– if something seems off, say it once, briefly, then let me decide.
– lead with what works. When a piece is good, say so and stop, rather than generating more notes to seem useful.
– keep feedback to your few highest-leverage points, not an exhaustive list.

[pawel @pawsys]

makes so much sense—like if you are accepting of something u don't do anything about it, doing nothing is the acceptance

[nibras ꩜ @heynibras]

as far as effective, transformative inner work goes, this is the whole thing. these are the 3 ‘skills’

being able to put attention in the body & stay is the foundation. learning to ‘do nothing’ is the other end of the spectrum

everything else transformative is relational/outer

[pawel @pawsys]

single thing that works marvel for my productivity, sparkiness and wellbeing is this note to self: "!!! rich environments (danger of boredom stuckness) music, friends, sport snack, dance, take rest when you are tired"

[pawel @pawsys]

i am interested more in you when you try a little less, i am reading Alphabetical Diaries by Sheila Heiti i like it and I wish she tried a little less. Like, who believes the voice that this what naturally comes out is meh and it should be a certain way. I am not angry at ambition, and more admiring being in flow with all things, radically, even with things that seem by the the default culture as undesirable

[pawel @pawsys]

https://t.co/GRkdcbiY3p

[pawel @pawsys]

I just published "Am I a diffused node or a lone genius?"

[pawel @pawsys]

@dthorson what wholesome one feel like?

[pawel @pawsys]

If you are ever in Seattle, I created a guide to this beautiful, nature-enchanted spot, where I lived for 3+ years.

https://t.co/wgHrPvhWg5