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#adoptee #adopteevoices
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[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

@gunwithbullets @vladimirlesbian @chronic_dyke Welll...occasionally he was, but he'd at least also do his job. I care much less about bedside manner than getting treatment. But I've also had probably 7 different specialists refer to /themselves/ as "like Dr. House".

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

@darlingyana_ Through /very/ extensive trial-and-error, yes. But I've moved and traveled a lot and found that quality specialists can wildly vary from area to area--in some areas, there legitimately sometimes isn't anyone worthwhile. 😭 Best bet is to find a GP willing to treat you or travel.

[still butch, still in pajamas @chronic_dyke]

Update: bad news, she basically came in recoiled at the air purifier, told me that I should do cardio 3x a week, misgendered me, and left lmao

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

The comments section was full of adoptive and foster parents telling her absofuckinglutely not, do not adopt, do not foster; she is being selfish and has all of the wrong reasons, *and she listened*.

Keep speaking up, keep advocating! The message is slowly making a difference.

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

#adopteevoices #adopteetwitter

Does what we do matter?

I just saw a post where a mom said her 11yo son is lonely, she's lonely, and she wanted advice on how to adopt a kid her son's age. I was very concerned what the responses were going to be like, but y'all... (1/2)

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

Abductions passed off as adoptions happens too frequently...almost like the US adoption system is set up to hide people's backgrounds and connections from everyone and make them untracable. 🤔 Human trafficking is human trafficking, no matter what other names you call it by.

[WAFB @WAFB]

Boy abducted from park at age 6 found alive more than 70 years later: https://t.co/KI2seRqD0G

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

It's worth noting that he is part Native American, making it even more ick and offensive to say, but I also think she genuinely didn't fully understand what the term means.

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

@adptdchameleon Yes, and he's awesome! Our relationship is great, been trying to catch up on missed years as best we can.

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

Weird realization today...I was definitely bullied a lot in elementary school, but it never really registered as bullying to me at the time because the "bullying" I got at home was so much worse.

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

@Waidwml1 @stevej8606 I consider it all of the time, and then I just look at my younger brother, who my dad got to keep--my life would have looked like his, meaning being loved, safe, not abused, supported, listened to, etc. I would not have been in foster care--my dad wanted to raise me.

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

Y'all...I sent my grandmother a Happy Mother's Day message and for the first time, she responded--she loved my message and sent me this sticker. But what does this sticker mean?! 😂 #adopteetwitter

[nat @IKYFL49]

One thing that needs to be stated regarding adoption is adoptive parents are not saints and should not be treated as such. They still are just as capable of dysfunction and abuse as biological parents. #AdopteeTwitter

[Lina Vanegas (She/her) @LinaLeadsWLove]

We live in a wild world!
#AdopteeTwitter #AdopteeVoices #SocialWorkMonth #MSW

[Robert Komaniecki @Komaniecki_R]

This woman could not have been more clear about not wanting to be infantilized, and yet

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

@adptdchameleon I'm so sorry. 🫂 My biomom went to a different state, had birth, put me up for adoption, and waited until the time frame where my biodad could file a paternity claim had passed before she told him, and then the adoption agency stonewalled him with "It's sealed and too late". 😢

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

A father shouldn't have to fight strangers in court for the right to parent his own child, but that happens regularly in the #adoption world. In many situations, the father's rights are terminated without him ever even knowing about the child. #adopteevoices

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

@RoosleFr @suzygra @ScaliaThomas16 @HighnessOphelia So...you added up all of the percentages of the breakdown categories and the total to get 62%? That's not how math works. The "total" line has the number you were looking for: 12.3% of kids (averaged by age) have 1+ parent(s) with substance abuse.

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

"Open adoptions" serve as a useful illusion for the adoption industry to use to get hesitant biological parents to agree, and a way to make prospective adoptive parents nervous about the ethical dilemmas be willing to adopt.

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

For parents into it for the right reasons, that a child could be gone tomorrow wouldn't be a deterrent any more than your child's cognitive chances mattered to you. But realistically, any child could be "gone tomorrow"--tragedy can strike anywhere.

[DoseReality @DBKtoday212]

As a parent, I see this as a deterrent to parents wanting to adopt and put their full blood, sweat, and tears into a child that can be gone tomorrow. This would be like foster care without getting financial and other assistance in raising the child I think!

[paxexscientia @paxexscientia]

As for "open adoptions", they're usually legally unenforcible, so the choice of how much contact, if any, is up to the adoptive parents. It can be anything from lots of visits and a close relationship to pictures in an email once a year to absolutely no contact post adoption.