You are angry and attacking me because I don't expect disrespect from my own wife due to financial downtime. You call it unrealistic expectation.
Do you know I have no problem with your own wife disrespecting you if something happens to your finances? You already expect and desire it. I just thought you should want better for yourselves. But disrespect is what is realistic and tenable for you.
Can we respect each other's realistic and unrealistic expectation? 🙏🏾
- "Be with someone who invests her income into the home"
Them: No ooo. She will disrespect you.
- "Eat your woman's money"
Them: Dem no dey chop woman money ooo. Anything wey your eye see, take am.
- "Everyone buys gifts when they are in love and committed to their person and the relationship. It is good for their heart. If she is not getting you gifts, she doesn't love you."
Them: I no dey collect gifts from woman.
- "A woman that loves you does not care about your current finacial status and would not even allow you carry all the bills. The whole point of relationship is to do life together.
Them: You deybdo like say you no sabi woman. Pray that a woman does not feed you.
Do you realize that if you don't have anything positive to say about women or have any positive expectation from them, the best thing you can do for yourself is to never be in a relationship or marriage with a woman. You cannot hold these positions and still want relationship/marriage. You'll either kill her or run yourself into depression.
Nobody is wired to disrespect you because you are broke. You believing it is what makes you foolish.
Everybody knows what they are doing.
Don't you know the population of poor people in this country and the number of married ones among them? Why is it your own that is "wired" to be disrespectful?
You can use wiring to defend and encourage anything - cheating, polygamy, violence, indifference, stonewalling, abuse, irresponsibility.
Nobody is wired to do shit. Everybody knows what they are doing like mad.
Do you think people are okay being broke or you think if there is a place to pick money, they won't go and pick it. Your parents are broke and struggling but you understand and give them grace because you understand the reality of things, but you want to kill young men with pressure.
You people need to learn how to give grace to people.