After giving birth, a woman's internal wounds take six months to heal, 12 months for physical recovery, two years for hormonal balance, and up to five years to rediscover her identity. Relationships frequently fail during this time due to a lack of understanding. Be kind and patient with new mothers; they are facing more challenges than it appears.
Acts of service men are dangerously attractive.
Fixing problems, making sure you’ve eaten, charging your phone, carrying your things… that’s romance to me.
Women who go silent when something upsets or hurts them, are often experiencing a coping mechanism called EMOTIONAL WITHDRAWAL. It's not that they have nothing to say, it's that their system learned that silence is safer than being misunderstood. Instead of expressing anger or frustration, they hold it in.
My girlfriend once caught me in a stupid lie and somehow her reaction scared me more than if she had shouted at me 😭
Because anger? you can work with anger.
Silence?? Nah. That’s psychological warfare.
It wasn’t even a serious lie.
She asked where I was on Friday night and instead of just saying “watching football with the guys” like a normal human being…
I panicked and said at Tobi’s place.
Meanwhile I was nowhere near Tobi 😭
I lied because I already canceled our movie plans twice that month because of football and I didn’t want another argument.
So basically I lied to “keep peace.”
Which immediately destroyed peace.
he scary part is she didn’t react.
She just looked at me for like 2 seconds and said okay.
That was it, no anger, no attitude, nothing.
And somehow that “okay” felt like my ancestors got notified.
But me being me, I ignored the warning signs.
The next morning she texted me: “Good morning baby ❤️”
Now THAT’S when fear started entering my body, because why are you this calm??
بعد الولادة ، فيه كلام قاله لي الدكتور ما عمري بنساه طول حياتي..!
"المشيمة اللي توها طلعت قبل شوي..هذي تعتبر جزء من جسم الأم ، وعضو كامل يتكوّن عشان يغذي الطفل ويخليه يكبر."
بعد الولادة ، الدكتور بدأ يتكلم بهدوء وقال :
لما المشيمة تخلص مهمتها وتنزل من الجسم فهذا يعني ..
Things I will never say no to:
Ice-cream.
Flowers.
Hugs.
Food.
Clothes.
Ice-cream.
Late-night drives.
Ice-cream
Spontaneous plans by my mannnn.
& did I mention Ice-cream?
"What radicalized you?"
Watching my female relatives plan, cook, shop, decorate, clean, and organize for the holidays while the men just show up and watch TV the whole time.
My brother called me at work. Middle of the day. Which he never does. His voice was strange. Tight. He said I need you to come to Mom’s house. I didn’t ask why. Just said I’m on my way. Drove like I was scared of what I’d find. When I got there she was in the kitchen making tea like it was any other day. My brother was sitting at the table looking like he was holding something very carefully. I sat down and Mom said your brother has something to tell you. My brother looked at her then at me.
I got my ngga drúnk last night and asked him “Which one of us got the best pșśy?” He start smiling hard and was like “Idk baby I really can’t choose” 10 seconds later that smile disappeared and he looked at me again like he seen a ghost, Yeah fck ngga GOTCHA 🙂😉