A "breakup from reality" is to replace the complexity of our failures w/ a fabricated narrative where we are the unbothered hero. We’d rather live in a convenient fiction than face the bankruptcy of our own potential. We're so busy winning the breakup that we’re losing in life.
We dump the anger meant for our failures onto ppl who love us. It’s the brain’s cowardly math: trading growth for a safe target. We invent grievances to avoid the mirror & drown out our lack of discipline.
Blaming the world for a debt we owe ourselves only stalls our potential.
We’d rather be a "victim" in a story we understand than a "failure" in a reality we don’t.
If the news isn't good, we invent a villain. We’ll fabricate a conspiracy just to avoid the weight of our own choices.
We aren't losing the war; we're just winning a fiction.
We don't see people as they are; we see them as we need them to be to feel safe.
Our critique of others is often just a leaked confession. We’ll manufacture their "faults" to drown out our own.
We can't heal a wound by pretending it belongs to someone else.
Bargaining w/ reality is a debt we eventually have to pay.
By obsessing over "good news" to drown out the bad, we aren't healing; we’re just burying truth under fiction. If the news isn't there, we'll fabricate it.
Eventually the reality we ignored will collapse our fantasy.
@susie_dent do note that one can also be "gigil" due to extreme anger or frustration. it's not limited to just anything cute and/or adorable altho (vast) majority of the time it is in that context. :)
@tokwako00@ginsandroses Re. life insurance, get term (20-30yrs or pay as need) never whole (until 70+). you'll (usually) only need life insurance til all ur kids start working.
also separate insurance frm investment - they have different goals (⬆️ floor vs ⬆️ ceiling). in short, I wldnt recommend VUL.