When you truly love someone, you have to learn the art of waiting. Love is not about rushing, demanding, or forcing things to fall into place. Sometimes the person you love needs time to heal, to grow, or to simply find their way back to themselves. And if your love is real, you'll give them that space without making them feel guilty for it. Waiting doesn't mean putting your life on hold, it means keeping faith in a bond that is strong enough to survive distance, silence, and time. The love that is meant for you will never be lost, it will return when both hearts are ready.
A healthy relationship will test you more than a toxic one. Because it won't let you run. It holds up a mirror and says: Show up. Communicate. Grow. Swallow the pride. It's a repeated choice to stay and work at it together. Even when it's hard and ugly. That's why real love scares people so much in this generation.
that's what I keep saying. watch Fight Club. watch James Bond. watch Into the Wild. you'll start acting like the main character and over time adapt certain traits as your own. you're brainwashing yourself for a better life. use movies, but use them delicately.
Somewhere in your 20s or 30s you'll get the opportunity to rebuild your life after a negative loop, heal from what broke you, live in your own space, reconnect with your discipline, and learn to love yourself again. It's very important that you see that journey through.
CORRECT ME IF I'M WRONG BUT, As I turn 43 this year, I have realised, as a man, no one cares about you. Not your wife. Not your family. Not your friends. Not your workmates. Nobody. People act like they care, but deep down, they don't. You are on your own. Always on your own.
-get jacked
-crush it at work
-marry an honest woman (with a good body)
-keep things fresh so you smash like it’s the hooking up phase
-travel the world
-watch good movies
-avoid complainers
-eat healthy (90% of the time)
-call your friends for no reason
-host banger dinner parties
-overpay for good concert tickets
-have monthly movie nights with people who make you belly laugh
-and if you’re ever feeling down remember you’re spinning on a sphere in an infinite universe and the fact you’re alive is a 1 in 500 trillion miracle - you’re so lucky it’s absurd and you have nothing to lose :)
Breakups in your 30s hit differently. It's not the same as heartbreak at 21. At 21, you cry, vent to friends, go out, distract yourself, and somehow you heal. Back then, life felt long, full of possibilities, what ifs, and( second chances). But in your late 20s or as you approach your 30s, it feels different. You are not only losing a person. You are losing plans, routines, and the version of yourself that was building a future with them.