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I’m the host of Immistories with Phebe. Listen here:

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Your education is no match for someone’s lived experiences. Please educate yourself accordingly. Thank you

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We spoke in Twi and laughed like we were old friends. We talked about how incredible it is when we meet fellow Ghanaians in random places and the courage it sometimes takes to put ourselves out there and ask “Where are you from?”, even though we can just tell by facial features.

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But I found my light again. I have been surrounded by people who have lit the matches and therapists who have helped me fan the flame.
Parents, as your kids go back to school, I hope you don’t dim their light. Light that spark by:
🔥 Using encouraging words
🔥 Inviting them into

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I still cringe when I think about filling out my first W-4 after grad school. I had no idea what I was doing and my HR person told me she couldn’t tell me how to fill it out! Health insurance deductions? What’s that????
Dear Immigrant Professionals, please don’t be afraid to ask

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There are rare moments of nothingness these days and my goal is to increase them in the next couple of months, especially as I encourage my associates and interns to be okay with silence and doing nothing in sessions. Can we try together?
Give me a 👍🏾 in the comments if you’re

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So find a corner to sit in and read a book. Find your friends and do something fun this weekend. Eat a meal with your family. Take care of yourself within your community and take care of your community too.
You don’t have to do another thing to prove yourself today. Your ancesto

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Writing this as an Immigrant Daughter felt scary! These are things I’m still working on and it’s not easy. A lot is ingrained in us and we get reminders from many of our cultural systems that we have to sacrifice ourselves for our families and the greater good...

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Thought I’d bring this back today. Which point resonated the most with you? Share with us in the comments!
Happy Monday!
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If life has been a lot lately and you are desiring rest, you’re not alone.
Send to someone in your inbox to remind them it’s okay to want some rest
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One of the pains of immigration is leaving many friends back home and having to navigate time differences and schedules. I also moved across the country (PA ➡️ WA). Some of my closest friends are on the East Coast and some overseas. But that doesn’t stop us from loving and suppor

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If we were all a little more vulnerable with each other as moms, we’d maybe realize that we are not alone. I also know that sometimes this kind of vulnerability has been met with judgment from other moms. We’re all doing the best we can so if you have mixed feelings about tomorro

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What have you learned about friendship this year? Share with us in the comments!
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Are any of these lessons new? No, not exactly. But as one of my favorite former supervisors told me years ago, these things keep coming up because the lesson hasn’t been learned. So here’s what I’

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Even if it feels uncomfortable or confusing. There’s a lesson in those tough places and we miss them when we’re so focused on the discomfort. Trust the journey and embrace the present moment. You are exactly where you're meant to be ✨

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I had the honor of being the keynote speaker at the WAMFT Mentor Day this morning and I talked about our “Why”. Many of us got into this profession because we recognized a need within our communities and wanted to support the necessary healing movement that needed to happen for p

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I’m not one for one liners or corny motivational quotes but I find myself repeating this a lot lately. I remember being in labor with my oldest son and telling myself my body was designed for this and that I could handle the pains of labor. After this experience, I started lookin

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Even though culture is meant to enrich our lives, it happens to be one of the biggest stressors for many immigrants who are torn between the culture of their home country and the culture of the country they currently reside in. Choosing ourselves and our joy may not come as easil

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I’m back from #springbreak with some reminders to jumpstart your week! As you remind yourself to do these things, I hope you remember to also give yourself some grace if you don’t seem to “get it right”. 💫 Which of these are you willing to start with this week? Share in the comm

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So what if they have a grand idea for you? What if they think it’s time for you to do something and you’re not ready for it? I saw a quote recently that said “Tradition is just peer pressure from dead people”. People can have their dreams and they do not have to dictate y

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I’m sure you’ve heard someone say they’re very honest and “tell it like it is”. While honesty is super important, we also have the responsibility to be in touch with ourselves and also to be kind. Validation is the key to ensuring that our assumptions are grounded in reality, and

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Growth is truly a process. Like a flower, we all have the potential to bloom and grow into something beautiful. Embrace the journey and trust in your growth. I’m here for your growth. The team at @253therapy is too. Come check us out!
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My clients amaze me with their growth everyday and I’m so honored to be able to sit with them through it all. Our growth can also come with some distorted thinking that can interrupt how far we can go. Here are some reminders about what growth doesn’t mean. Growth will never mean