Brxvhxxrt @phils_emjay - Twitter Profile

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over 2 years ago

Thankfully to our parents so taught us values and contentment. When you're actually contented with what you have as a child, you know who you are & the background you're coming from, it saves you from everything. 1 Timothy 6:6 (KJV) But godliness with contentment is great gain.

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over 2 years ago

It is the responsibility of parents to teach kids contentment and values It is much easier to teach contentment if the basic needs are met. At the time I attended secondary school, my parents were not rich. My school mates were from rich homes and they couldn't imagine I resumed late due to fees. They always assumed I stayed back to watch football. Yes, I did watch football but that was not why I was late. It was hard to explain because people intentionally came late because they were abroad or because they just felt like. Importantly, nobody would search your bag if you're late because you have enough time to hide contraband before school hours is over. I had classmates that did midterm (Wednesday to Sunday) in the US and UK. Half of the school went abroad on holiday. The ones living outside Lagos were driven to the airport where they flew to their various states of residence. I boarded my first flight a year after I left secondary school. Lets not talk about provision. You'll think some people were planning to open a supermarket. I played Premier League football because friends bought football from UK when they were buying their customised jersey and boots. Conversations were different but interesting. Secondary school gave me exposure and better polish. I understood better how the world worked from a point of privilege and a point of disprivilege. I am forever grateful for going there. What secondary school didn't teach me was to lack self esteem or ask my parents to buy anything they couldn't afford or do things because my schoolmates were doing it. As a child, depending on your mindset, it can be hard but it is just in your head because in hindsight, we were just kids who loved each other, had fun and spent 6 years of our lives together. Their privilege was just their reality just like mine was my reality. The absence of social media might have helped because I never had to bother what my classmates were doing during the holiday. I was just happy to be home till the next resumption. I didn't even have a phone to call. We will see when next we see. We lived in different localities so meeting for PS 2 was impossible unless I was going to ask my busy parents to drop me and pick me up. Naaaaa. Fast forward to University, unlike my siblings who went to private universities, I went to UNIBEN and I found myself in the position of the friends I used to have in secondary school. People saw me as privileged. I always flew to school, I had enough monthly allowance, I spoke differently(mindset not accent) because of my exposure and was accused of not knowing how to speak proper pidgin, my reasoning was different. But then, I wasn't lofty minded. My home training and personal values taught me kindness. I was kind to everyone in school because I understood what it meant to not have. I remember one incidence in 400level where I opened my box and a friend screamed that I brought supermarket to school. I just smiled and shook my head. I asked him to take whatever he wanted. That was how my hostel mates started asking and I just shared the box. All I could think of was my secondary school and what he would think if he saw what people brought to school. My pinned tweet will pass the rest of the message. Point is, teach your kids the right values and they will know how to filter the right values from such an environment. There is so much more your kids can take from a privileged school and from privileged mates. It is also important to vet the school. School is not just about academics. It should teach values and my secondary school did just that.

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