NOT EVERYBODY IN YOUR LIFE is YOUR FRIEND. One of the healthiest things you can learn is how to CATEGORISE your relationships.
Think of them in four levels:
“If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater or lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans”.
- Desiderata
Never translate internet proximity to offline realities. Build from your reality
Poverty is a launch pad.
Not because being poor is good.
But because the pressure of having nothing forces you to find everything you need within yourself.
Nobody likes you when you're depressed.
Plain and simple. We can talk all day about mental health and how important it is, but the moment you are depressed, people start to distance themselves. They see you as negative, a burden, and someone too heavy to handle.
Do not project your limitations onto people who are just getting started. Your ceiling is not their ceiling. Your "that won't work" is based on your attempt, your resources, your season. They're operating with different variables. Let them run their own experiments.
Arnold Schwarzenegger's no complaining rule:
“No complaining about a situation unless you're prepared to do something to make it better. If you see a problem and you don't come to the table with a potential solution, I don't want to hear your whining about how bad it is. It couldn't be that bad if it hasn't motivated you to try to fix it.”
This house in Ratnagiri, Maharashtra was built on a budget, 1,100 square feet, using laterite stone quarried within 10 kilometres of the site, Mangalore clay roof tiles, teak wood joinery and clearstory windows along the eastern wall that pull morning light through the entire living area. Cross ventilation through high ceilings and large openings means no mechanical cooling. Not a single tree on the site was cut during construction.
This is not an expensive house. It is a disciplined one.
The crude indigenous designs we have in our communities do not need to be abandoned. They need effort. When slight effort is put into laterite, into fired brick, into rammed earth, when someone takes the time to lay it properly, orient the building correctly, and open it to the right wind, the result stops looking crude and starts looking like this. The people around us cannot see how good our materials are because we have never shown them what those materials look like when they are taken seriously.
Building kilns is not a fantasy. We have the clay. We have the land. We just have not decided it matters enough yet.
There is no pride in crudeness and there is no excuse for mediocrity when the solution is already in the ground.
Ratnagiri, Maharashtra, India | Articulated Design Initiative | Photography: Vaibhav Kapadi
@drtalieybita A poor environment doesn’t just reduce performance. It quietly changes what you believe is possible. That’s why changing environments often feels like rediscovering parts of yourself you thought were gone.
You cannot perform at a high level in a low standard environment. At some point, the environment wins. If you have been in a place that consistently undervalues rigour, do not be surprised if your own standards have quietly adjusted downward to match.
21 children just lost a version of themselves today.
A father is not only a man in the house. He is history, tribe, bloodline, medical records, identity.
Now imagine being a child and realising the story you were given about yourself has a missing chapter.
Before we turn this into entertainment, remember: the loudest victims may be the quietest ones. (Children)
Whereas I remain fully cognisant of the danger of the illusion of choice, I also fully embrace the concept of life’s abundance.
There will be more, it may be better, it may not, but there will be more.
The older you get, the more you realize luck is mostly exposure.
If you sit in the same place, have the same routine, talking to the same people, nothing new really happens.
You have to tackle the world to win.
Travel more. Talk to people. Try a breakfast spot. Post on social media. Start a side hustle or a hobby.
The world rewards motion. You don't find opportunity sitting still.