@realEstateTrent I had a recent discussion about paying taxes on trading gains and somehow my advisor was warning me of taxes... I'm trying to check if I'm just stupid or something is missing but isn't it in my interest to actually hope for higher taxes that come from higher gains???
@realEstateTrent We had ours yesterday in SoHo. Spent 5 hours riding subways and ending the night walking from Little Island up High Line to Hudson Yards.
@BowTiedBroke Just spent a week there last week. You need to be strategic with the fast passes. There's no way I am waiting more than 30 minutes for any other ride though. You have to enjoy the atmosphere there or just roaming around taking pics.
@tedfrank I also think that people attribute increases in expenses to external factors out of their personal control, but treat the rise in their incomes because of their efforts; rarely do people connect that incomes and expenses (cost of living) are related.
@realEstateTrent Many talking points about NYC are from people who don't want or like the city life. I get that... The stories I read of NYC of old were scary; my experience living there, quite different. I have moved out for now, but probably return once I no longer need a house and yard.
This is a short note on my experience as an immigrant and new American. The timeline is this:
- 2002: moved from India to attend Grinnell College, Iowa
- 2006: started PhD in computer science at Brown University, Rhode Island
- 2012: started as a postdoc scholar at Cornell University, New York
- 2013: started as a professor of computer science at University of Massachusetts Amherst
- 2015: received a “Green Card”
- 2020: became a naturalized American citizen
Choosing to be a professor is not the most lucrative path for a PhD-holding computer scientist. In seven years at UMass Amherst, my faculty salary never reached the initial offer I received from Google when I completed my PhD. However, I vividly remember how I thought through my options in 2012. I estimated that U.S. taxpayers had spent roughly $400,000 on my tuition and stipend during my PhD. In Iowa, I had experienced extraordinary warmth and kindness from everyone—faculty and American students, but also ordinary people without any affiliation to the college. I felt I owed something back to the country, and so I decided to give back in the best way that I could—which is to teach computer science. I was also delighted to be able to do this at a rural state school.
As a new professor, I continued being grateful for the support I received from the National Science Foundation for my research. That money was used to start the careers of students who are now in deeply technical roles at Roblox, Microsoft, Meta, Cursor, and other places. I’m delighted that some of my current students are working closely with the National Labs to advance national interests, or going on to teach computer science themselves. At this point in time, many computer science faculty are on leave from their university positions, doing high-impact work in companies. I recently spent two years as a consultant at Roblox, where I worked on large language models. Roblox is a wonderful place to work with lots of deep technical problems. However, I left that role because I needed to put more time into teaching. I felt that it was my duty to figure out how to teach undergraduate students what I had learned from my research on LLMs. Distilling contemporary research into undergraduate courses takes time.
To sum up, my experience as an immigrant and a new American has been very positive. The kindness and generosity that I experienced over the years had the most natural effect—I consider myself a patriot. I serve the nation the best way that I can, which is to teach computer science and build up our technical talent. I intend to keep doing this—it’s not a debt I can repay—and there is no question of me stopping just because my work has recently become a bit harder.
So, it makes me sad that the current generation of international students are less likely to have the experience that I did. A university can only admit students based on merit. It is up to the U.S. government to make national security decisions about who to admit to the country. But, please use a scalpel. Putting every student on notice makes the relationship between foreign students and the U.S. entirely transactional. We should instead be trying to create new Americans who are able and willing to give back more than they get, and our higher education system is exceptionally good at this.
@realEstateTrent Outsource as much as you can - we had washer dryer in our apartment which was used only for the kid’s clothes. I just drop off my bag of laundry for pickup wash and fold. Same for my wife. See where you can find time back for you, but don’t expect more than 2 hours a night.
@realEstateTrent Can the nanny do bath time, around 4/4:30? I know dinner is messy but wiping them down is quicker than bath time. Food prep, you may wish to consider bulk preparation too; I was the primary cook and I’d portion out meal prep for a few days at a time. Don’t sweat about the mess.