Brandon 🌱

All I know is I know nothing, yet all I want is to know everything.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

It’s just gratitude.

That’s the secret. 🤫

It’s not a secret. It’s really it though. That’s the secret sauce.

I had to learn it in a thousand different ways, ways that sounded nice, sounded more profound.

But if I boil it all down, it’s just gratitude.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@tszzl The good part of End of Evangelion where we see our individuality makes our connection meaningful or the bad part when the government agencies start civil war murdering each other and dropping nukes on cities?

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

The really wild thing is this is true even if they don’t know you have a gf.

It’s got to be a social energy thing.

[maddyy @localsweety]

nobody can explain why men randomly become more attractive after getting in a relationship and it's really bothering me

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@FeralPHunter Omg yes.

Code Red Zero still goes hard now. Wish it wasn’t so hard to find.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@FeralPHunter Not everyday someone gets me to actually lol here.

You win today though.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@Duderichy She only did it once, so this is a pretty cheap way to give yourself a royalty experience.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@arindube I look forward to it!

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@Chesedgirl Exactly. All the dudes complaining about this are telling on themselves without realizing.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

Oooooo…

Well. That makes a lot of sense why I’m avoiding relationship itself too then.

[Ava @noampomsky]

also just watched a @HeidiPriebe1 video about avoidant attachment that made me tear up where she talks about how avoidants tend to be self-aware but not relationally aware because when they are dating someone they hold themselves to the standard of "what would a good partner do this in the moment" rather than "what do I authentically feel in this moment, and what are the implications of that" because they learned at a young age that safety resides in being the person who does the right thing. and actually a sign of real security is being willing to express emotional states and boundaries that might upset the other person and show vulnerability instead of assuming the role of the stoic, perfect caretaker at all times. It really made me reflect on how I was much more avoidant when I thought that the only way I could be loved or safe was by showing up constantly as the ideal partner (which obviously ended up being a crippling amount of pressure and would end with me desperately fantasizing about escaping the relationship so I would be free of that particular burden) and how freeing it is to have learned that I can be loved even when I'm imperfect or upsetting the other person. And it makes me feel sad for the people I know who struggle to fully understand that your feelings should inform your obligations. In Bluets Maggie Nelson writes that "Love is not consolation. It is light." Earning secure attachment for me has the process of learning that over and over

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@parakeetnebula A if it’s just one time, B if it’s a relationship.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@Ruesavatar That’s so cool.

Our subconscious minds are so weird.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@animalologist Ya. I became vegetarian talking to my friend about this stuff.

I became vegan after I watched the factory videos. I just can't.

I'll eat an animal again if I have to in order to survive and not before.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

There was an F3 tornado a town to the north of mine last night and I can't believe the people who think their house would be impervious to that because it's made out of concrete or brick.

A mile high spinning wind tunnel into the sky is an insane sight.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@Ruesavatar If he loves LOTR though, you can probably introduce him to Dune after as well.

Dune and LOTR are the foundations of those modern genres, so always great to read the sources early.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@Ruesavatar Just let him. LOTR is worth it. He will not get as bored. The appendices exist, and he can dive deeper with the Silmarillion.

I read them all at 11. He'll crush through them I'm sure.

Ender's Game will be a great transition to Sci Fi after the deep LOTR dive.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@Ruesavatar The no makeup look is so much better.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@mattyglesias Incredible that's the line that must be reached for their education to have been deemed "worth it".

You'd think a gifted kid would learn better to think that intelligence should be the foundation of their self perception too.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@emilykmay I will never understand people who would get mad about being made out with. This is such a sweet thing to do.

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@dilanesper Shouldn't illegally sexually assaulting someone be handled no matter the other persons gender?

Crazy that a school wouldn't do anything!

[Brandon 🌱 @pibblepuddle]

@dilanesper I don't understand, I was talking to a friend of mine recently, and coed wrestling is apparently the norm with his kids in Chicago.

Isn't this something that should have just been taken seriously period? The perps gender doesn't even really matter to what happened does it?