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[Dr. Carl Hindy @DrCarlHindy]

Harsh But Common Ways We Drive Away the People We Love

— Carl Hindy, Ph.D.

• We mock their feelings and call it “being honest.”

• We roll our eyes at their vulnerability.

• We punish them for having needs.

• We treat empathy as optional.

• We refuse to imagine how our behavior feels from their side.

• We turn every conflict into a courtroom.

• We need to win more than we need to understand.

• We weaponize past mistakes and never let them expire.

• We confuse intimidation with strength.

• We make them pay for wounds we never healed.

• We deny obvious harm and call them “too sensitive.”

• We rewrite history to protect our ego.

• We escalate instead of regulate.

• We sulk instead of speak.

• We explode instead of reflect.

• We expect mind-reading but offer none.

• We interpret everything through our own insecurity.

• We take offense where none was intended.

• We accuse before we inquire.

• We shame instead of guide.

• We control instead of collaborate.

• We monitor instead of trust.

• We threaten abandonment to feel powerful.

• We use silence as a blade, not a pause.

• We turn affection on and off as leverage.

• We prioritize substances over relationships.

• We numb instead of show up.

• We let addiction shrink our empathy.

• We force loved ones to compete with alcohol, screens, gambling, or work.

• We promise change in the morning and repeat the harm at night.

• We minimize our outbursts and magnify theirs.

• We demand forgiveness without demonstrating repair.

• We apologize without altering behavior.

• We confuse intensity with intimacy.

• We interpret disagreement as betrayal.

• We ridicule their ambitions.

• We sabotage their growth to soothe our insecurity.

• We expect loyalty while offering little safety.

• We expose their vulnerabilities in public.

• We involve children in adult conflicts.

• We make love conditional.

• We keep score instead of building trust.

• We compete with our spouse instead of standing beside them.

• We insist our pain is always larger.

• We refuse therapy but insist they’re the problem.

• We cling to pride at the cost of connection.

• We interpret boundaries as rejection.

• We equate control with love.

• We drain the room of psychological safety.

• We make home feel like a place of vigilance rather than refuge.

[Fav ⛧ @Favwontmiss]

Having parents who didn't prepare you for literally anything in life, judging you for being "behind" as an adult is definitely a canon event for a lot of neurodivergent people.

[Crypto Facts 🇺🇲🏳️‍🌈 @Crypt0_Facts]

My mom was a stay-at-home mom. At 17. I had to demand to be allowed to wash my own clothes because I felt I needed to learn to do it... So much pushback because " You're not good at washing clothes and you make too many mistakes"

It was the same with cooking. Never taught to cook. Kicked out of the kitchen. Fast forward into my early twenties and parents are like, I don't understand why you don't know how to cook or clean...🫩

I will say that at some point in your twenties you have to take responsibility for yourself and recognize that if you weren't taught about finances, you need to go teach yourself about finances. If you weren't taught about cooking, you need to go teach yourself. It's never been easier

[Lammy @Lammyisback]

6 SIGNS AN AVOIDANT LOVES YOU

Avoidants don't express love in obvious ways. It's subtle. Muted.
Easy to miss when you're already hurting

1. They show up practically, they change your tire, grab your prescription, fix the Wi-Fi. For them, helping = caring.

2. They don't try to control your life they respect your routines, your friends, your alone time.Letting you stay independent is how they stay connected.

3. They choose quiet closeness,sitting next to you on the couch. Resting a hand on your leg.Physical presence feels safer than emotional talks.

4. They remember random things you mention. Your coffee order. That meeting you were nervous about. If it comes up later, you matter.

5. They need space but they don't disappear forever.

6. They step back to regulate, then reach out again.The return is the signal they slowly fold you into their real life.
Errands. Weekend routines. Familiar places. That's intimacy in their language.

Many avoidants grew up with emotional neglect, their basic needs were met, but their feelings were ignored or dismissed. Over time, their nervous system learned that emotions aren't safe, so vulnerability feels risky.
That's why emotional conversations can lead to pulling away or shutting down. It isn't personal. It's how they protect themselves. And over time, that makes real closeness hard to build, even when care is there.

[Parental Alienation @PAcumbria]

Adult children of narcissists think it’s normal to explain every decision like they’re presenting evidence in court.

[꩜ Erica 444 U ♊️🪽⭐️ ꩜☯️ @airwreckauraaa]

And don’t let age of a person fool you into tolerating behavior that doesn’t sit right with your spirit. Growing older doesn’t automatically make someone emotionally mature, self-aware, or healed. Many adults are still operating from unhealed wounds, just with more life experience and people around them who enable the behavior.

Sometimes accountability is a gift. Being honest about what you experience can create awareness, whether the other person is ready to receive it or not. Not every truth is an attack. Sometimes it’s an opportunity for growth.

[alpha man @alphaman_111]

Adult Child: You hurt me

Parent: I did the best I could

Adult Child: You hurt me

Parent: Mistakes were made on both sides

Adult Child: You hurt me

Parent: Let's agree to leave the past in the past

Adult Child: You hurt me

Parent: You're looking for reasons to be upset

Adult Child: You hurt me

Parent: You only remember the bad things

Adult Child: [Leaves the conversation]

Society: We can't figure out why adult children are becoming estranged from their parents.

[LLONER 🦅🪐 @eyojoel77]

ya'll way too comfortable with disrespecting /mistreating people and just expecting them to"get over it"without holding yourself accountable.y'all mess up genuine people simply because your pride is too big to give a decent apology followed by corrective action and ways to fix it

[Parental Alienation @PAcumbria]

One of the most difficult roles in a highly dysfunctional family is being the person who refuses to pretend.

The truth teller is often the one who notices unhealthy patterns, speaks up about harmful behaviour, and refuses to participate in the family’s version of reality.

[Libriscent @libriscent]

They did you dirty, got exposed by their own actions, and now they mad at you?
Baby, let them fight that demon alone.

[ꪝe @_wej01]

YOU ARE STILL MY PARTNER BUT YOU'RE NO LONGER MY SAFE PLACE

We still text every day. We still say "I love you." We still make plans for next week.

But something has changed.

I don't come to you when my anxiety spikes. I don't reach for you when your distance hurts. I don't feel safe enough to tell you what I'm really feeling anymore...

[Special Taiwan @TaiwanSpecial]

Awkward Taiwan:

In probably one of the more surreal commencement speeches of all time, graduates at Taiwan’s Shih Hsin University #世新大學 were told to “End yourselves quickly” if they couldn’t keep their lives in order after they entered the work place.

This rather drastic admonition was made by Shih Shin University president Chen Ching-ho 世新大學校長陳清河 during his commencement address to the school’s Master’s and PhD degree graduates.

He then went on to tell them that if they could not manage their lives they should exit from the world because the world wouldn’t need people like them.

The ensuing uproar has led to calls for Dr Chen to resign. Yesterday he apologized for “had not been sufficiently careful in my remarks” and announced he would take a two month unpaid leave.

#Taiwan #graduation #commencement

[🦋still pretty @NuJhayhne]

@Acedouglas01 being cruel is a character flaw and it cannot hide under being nice for too long

[Peng @Acedouglas01]

Someone who’s cruel to others and kind to you will eventually turn on you.

You can count on that.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

While survivors often carry trauma responses, they also develop strengths that many people don’t see at first glance. Here are some positive traits common in survivors of narcissistic abuse: 💪

Deep empathy – heightened ability to understand and feel what others are going through.
Resilience – an inner toughness that comes from surviving prolonged adversity.
Strong intuition – finely tuned radar for dishonesty, manipulation, and hidden agendas.
High emotional intelligence – awareness of their own emotions and others’, even if they struggle with trusting it at first.
Compassion – often go out of their way to comfort and support others.
Creativity – many survivors channel their pain into art, writing, music, or problem-solving.
Authenticity – once they break free, they often reject fake personas and embrace their real selves.
Courage – leaving or standing up to a narcissist requires enormous bravery.
Determination for healing – they often dive deep into self-growth, psychology, and recovery.
Protectiveness of others – especially vulnerable people, children, or anyone being mistreated.
Ability to see through masks – hard to fool them once they’ve recognized manipulative tactics.
Inner strength – often underestimated, but survivors learn they can endure and rise again.

So while the scars are real, survivors often emerge with a mix of wisdom, empathy, and inner power that others can’t fake. 🙏🏼💛💪

[Collins🦋 @collinstimbela_]

You cannot repeatedly mistreat someone and expect your relationship to remain unchanged.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Malignant narcissists think they can abuse you terribly one day, and then act like nothing happened the next and you’re supposed to go along with this.

Sometimes called "narcissistic reset" or "reset button abuse."
It’s a common manipulation tactic used by malignant narcissists where they expect you to act as if their abuse never happened, as if they can press a reset button and erase the past.
If you refuse to comply and hold them accountable, they label you as the problem—accusing you of being bitter, unforgiving, or “stuck in the past.”
This is a form of gaslighting, coercive control, and emotional invalidation, designed to make you question your own reality and force you into submission.
It’s also connected to compartmentalization, where they separate their abusive behavior from their self-image, refusing to acknowledge any wrongdoing. In their mind, they decide when things are over, and your feelings don’t matter.

[Dee N.K @DeeMwangaza]

@qxbroker Happens when maturity levels do not match