if u offer me a sincere apology & change ur behavior, I'll never bring up our past issues again. But if no apology was given and ur still repeating mistakes, u can't ask me to stop mentioning the past. The "past" is actually the present if u haven't changed.
People who spend long periods of time at home and slowly lose the desire to go outside often think they're just resting. But psychologically, many of them are experiencing something called mental rumination. It's a state where the brain starts slowing down while the number of thoughts inside keeps increasing and the motivation to do anything slowly disappears. The mind gets stuck in the past, worries about the future and burns itself out. This isn't laziness, it's a nervous system stuck in survival mode. And the longer it lasts, the more distant normal life begins to feel. And the difficult part is that you usually can't escape it through one massive burst of motivation. And sometimes,recovery starts with just one small step.
I saw a lady sharing that her man paid all the bills while she went to school and raised their kids. Now she's a registered nurse, and she's holding things down while he studies engineering. That's what partnership looks like.
Is anyone else ever genuinely shocked when you find out you have an impact on someone's life? A coworker can be like "I've missed seeing you" and I'm just like "???? you?? missed me????? My presence has an effect on your daily experience???? i affect things??? What???"