i keep a document on my phone called "things that felt like the end of the world but weren't."
every time i'm spiraling i add to it. then i read the old ones.
"didn't get into first choice college" (met my best friend at second choice).
"thought i'd never get over them" (can barely remember their face now.
it's becoming proof that i can survive everything.
even this.
Now that I’m maturing as a woman and care about how I react to things and my nervous system etc I genuinely be making sure I sit with my negative emotions or sad emotions like if someone hurt me I sit with it I don’t avoid it it makes things worse on the inside
my ex really ruined romance for me because now whenever a guy starts acting nice, i'm not moved. i'm just suspicious. it all feels like a PR campaign until proven otherwise. its not even funny atp
just a gentle reminder: don’t keep people around as an option while you figure out what you want. no one deserves to be a backup plan or a second choice. if you care about someone, be honest with them and don’t waste their time. :_) everyone deserves to be chosen wholeheartedly.
I believe you can always resolve and reconcile things with others if the love is mutual and the bond is strong while also catering to what’s healthy for you and acknowledging your feelings. I think everyone is very scared and all we can do is be as human as possible
libraries literally aren't just places to obtain books for free. they're some of the few public spaces left in our society where you're allowed to exist without the expectation of spending money.
A man making you feel small, confused, insecure, or unworthy is not expressing interest. He’s expressing a lack of regard for you.
Disrespect should not be interpreted as desire. It should repulse you.