We could really improve combat readiness if we ran our military like this. You show up to boot camp on day one and you haven't already passed special forces selection before enlisting, you get kicked out immediately.
@soulkhan I actually don’t even get this argument from a two-rational-people going on a date perspective, is it not expected/norm to chose a location in the middle between both respectively. There should be an expectation for a mutual sacrifice to get there
@27gunfighterz@prettycritical Same. Read the counterpoint comment and it just reads like a circlejerk. Way too many assumptions made about how a first date is going to that are overly optimistic. I would imagine that a lot of the comments as well are projecting based solely on the successful relationships
@FromMars0821@CPTheFanchise Please read carefully.
‘Down across all accounts’ clearly means down when you sum up PnL across platforms.
Best of luck making up that -40k
The famous 'men leave sick wives' narrative needs to die.
People inadvertently Psyop themselves by reading headlines.
- The Karraker & Latham paper that popularized it was retracted for coding errors. After recalculation, they found NO statistically significant gender difference in divorce after illness (except in heart disease) and concluded they 'fail to reject the null hypothesis.'
- The Cancer reference is from a 2009 (Glantz) study, which did find a 6/7-fold disparity when the patient was female.
But crucially: they never recorded, or even tried to determine, who filed/initiated divorce (separation).
The authors merely inferred “partner abandonment” from the pattern of who was sick, not from documentation of who filed the papers.
To be clear, it's not unreasonable to assume that the sick partner would not initiate divorce, but we should be honest that we don't know, because it simply wasn't measured.
We do know two things
1. Base priors - women initiate divorces more often than men. So we should factor that in when looking at the numbers (at least do a bayesian revision).
2. Anecdotally, sick partners have divorced the healthy partner. Molly Kochan did this, and talked about it in her book Dying for Sex.
While Molly's case was extreme, it is possible for the sick partner (the woman) to initiate the divorce because the healthy partner (the man) is not capable of caring for her as well as she needs.
But beside that, context matters enormously. I don't know how much weight we should place on the Glantz study.
Glantz studied 515 patients with severe, rapidly-progressing brain tumors/MS at ONE hospital, with Only 60 divorces in total.
That is what this study is based off of.
Meanwhile, population studies tell a different story:
1. In the more recent Karraker study there was no overall gender difference; and a small effect for wives' heart disease only
2. Multiple studies of breast cancer - a female-specific cancer - actually show a different story
Germany: 108 patients, ZERO divorces after 1 year
Sweden: 4,761 patients, same divorce risk as healthy women
Finland: 3,225 patients, no difference over 10 years
Denmark & Norway: 8% LOWER divorce risk
3. Denmark (Carlsen 2007) studied 46k survivors, All-cancer divorce risk was statistically indistinguishable. Norway (Syse & Kravdal 2007) studied 1.4M couples (215k with cancer) and found most cancers showed small declines in divorce for both men and women.
When we do see increased divorce risks in cancer illness are gender-specific, fertility-linked cancers (cervical for women, testicular for men). Those raise divorce for the patient, not just the wife.
To be clear, gendered caregiving burdens are real and worth addressing.
But the rhetoric that 'men abandon, women stay' is a gross oversimplification from absolutely shoddy data at worst, or weak data at best.
The broader data shows most marriages survive serious illness regardless of which partner is sick.
One small, extreme study shouldn't define the narrative about millions of couples facing illness together.
@SM_TechB3aute@Tsartheripper We’ve done that before several times and the ytppl have came and destroyed it. The system works as intended with them hiring their unqualified brothers and sisters. They see other/attempts to hire other as threats and DEI.
@MidKnight_Snax@JackMac Yea I still don’t buy it, however they are signed off statements and he is being represented by a ‘respected’ law firm. These witnesses must have been paid a large sum. How Lorna is being portrayed doesn’t match with her online footprint
If you’ve ever worked in finance, you know women like this are a force of nature, especially at top-tier banks. They might not be the “rainmaker” bringing a deal in, but they’re often the ones making sure the deal actually gets done, the client gets their win, and the bank gets its fees. They’re smart, hard-working, usually the most focused and disciplined person in the room, and utterly ruthless.
If you’re capable and you show them professional respect, they will move mountains for you. If you’re lazy, dumb, or a roadblock, though, they won’t hesitate to steamroll you and leave your body in an alley behind the building. The definition of no better friend, no worse enemy.
You’d have to to be insane to pick a fight with someone like this, especially if the facts of the case aren’t completely on your side. We’re not even 24 hours into this story and it’s already clear the guy who tried dragging this woman through the mud is likely the dumbest dude who’s ever had a job on Wall Street. He truly has no idea what he’s done or what he’s in for.